Depression and Anxiety Secrets – Episode 4

many of us go through each day with a
pretty annoying script playing in our heads it skips around on repeat
subconsciously saying things like my dad was right about me I’m terrible at
everything I’ll never be good enough or nothing goes right for me while it’s
okay and probably healthy to have the occasional moment of self-doubt most of
the time you really need to get these toxic thoughts out of your head
why because toxic thoughts left unchecked and unregulated can negatively
affect all aspects of your life as Phillip viana noted in lifehack org it
becomes a cycle when negative thoughts reinforce negative emotions which in
turn produce negative actions if the cycle is not broken and left to run
uninterrupted it will inevitably have detrimental physical and mental effects
on the person experiencing the spin in addition if these cycles spin often
enough they can lead to clinical depression and anxiety
however eliminating toxic thoughts is easier said than done sometimes these
thoughts are the result of words being spoken over you many times as a child
and thus have had a long time to take hold in your mind or sometimes these
thoughts are a product of poor self-worth these negative thoughts and
beliefs can be so deep-rooted and can be so ingrained in you that you don’t even
notice that they’re there but it’s in these situations that the untangling of
these negative thoughts is most needed cognitive behavioral therapy known as
CBT can be a powerful tool to help you identify and overcome these destructive
thoughts and help you on your way to happiness before I came in beautiful minds I was
suffering from PTSD and high anxiety and it caused me to vent out against my
family I was fine at work started getting really sick at work and then I
brought it home to basically my family was screaming at my family and had no
patience for my four children my wife and actually my wife left me in August
and took my four children and that was a real wake-up call as a child I’d
suffered from sexual abuse for multiple people and I had overbearing father who
was very militant didn’t understand why I was the way I was didn’t understand
that I was acting out all over the place and it was more of a shame on you kind
of thing and instead of trying to understand what I was dealing with and
that where the root was and I ran away from home for a couple of years when I
was 15 started doing hard drugs started working for drug dealers I was assaulted
many times in the streets living there and even though it’s a small town
there’s a lot of drugs and a lot of violence I didn’t shot at I’ve been
stabbed I’ve been cut up I’ve been burned even from all the the problems I
had as a kid and the trauma I suffered was nothing compared to losing my family
that was I was horribly suicidal I was taking on myself blaming everything on
myself and my whole life I vowed to fight monsters and destroy monsters and
I’d become one so the next thought was take that monster out of my family’s
life in that place I wanted to and their pain in mine in
some way why did you feel like a monster because I made everyone feel like on
pins and needles in my house no one could relax everyone was always
worried about how I was feeling that day as to how their day would go you know
and no and no one was telling me the truth about certain things cuz they’re
so afraid of talking to me you know even a little last thing would happen in the
day and they would just not tell me about it because they’re so afraid I
would hit the roof and start screaming what I want to say to you is I’ve seen
in the past that a lot of people were dehumanized because of mental illness
and now it almost seems like we’re going to this other stage where I my label my
name is my depression my anxiety what is your name you know sort of thing and I
never want anybody to think that that has to be their label even commercials
often label us this is my I’m depressed or I have anxiety or something like that
all of these things are remedied all of these things are curable
they take lifestyle not modifications they take thinking modifications but
they are all reversible and I am living proof of that because I’ve had my own
depression and I’ve actually had my own anxiety and my anxiety was worse than my
depression I had a lot of anxiety I even had OCD for a while and a lot of people
grow out of OCD but all of these things are curable but they’re not often taught
as curable because people can make some good money off of you always having this
but a therapist actually therapy is one of the most beneficial things and the
cognitive behavioral therapy is one of the most beneficial ways to get through
that but I never want anybody to think that they have to live with this forever
it is something that you can get rid of and something that you can not have to
deal with later on in life CBT is pretty interesting because we have a general
idea that when something happens that events will create all your emotional
problems right that’s the general idea however the fact is that our emotions
have little to do with the events that are happening outside of ourselves but
it has more to do with the way we think about that situation so you you can
control and learn to control your emotions
if you are more aware of how you think and CBT is all about that is about
bringing awareness into your beliefs the way you do things why you you think
certain things what are you thinking are these thoughts
negative are they distorted are they completely based on reality or are they
based on your emotions so when you’re aware of the way you’re thinking you’ll
be able to analyze it and see okay I’m feeling like this because this is what I
think tell me the kinds of things you would say i I made my wife question her
her own life in question you know even want to kill herself and belittled her I
blamed her for everything from the bills cause we were in financial trouble I
blamed her for that I blamed her for being unhappy I blamed her for raising
the kids wrong I basically took everything that was I didn’t like about
myself and turned it on her and blamed her for all my problems and you can you
can you repeat some of the exact words you said to her you’re stupid you’re a
worthless parent you can’t do anything right you’re ruining me financially
you’re ruining my life you make me unhappy I can’t stand to be around you
you drive me crazy basically made her question everything about her own self
even though she knows she knew I had a problem and she’d been begging
me to go to therapy for years but I said I’d never need a therapist I will never
go to a therapy you know I will never go to a psychologist or psychiatrist I was
hell-bent on them would you care that him oh yeah oh yeah
a lot of profanity I used the f-word a lot T children oh
yeah how old were they they range in age I have four right now there are ten
twelve fourteen and seventeen how old how young was the youngest that they
would hearing those words from you Oh since the time he was probably five when
he started really hearing me start to erupt and it only got worse over time
and you would say it’s him you would use the f-word and you would say it to him
he was so little I didn’t scream at him as much because he was so little he
didn’t know anything but it was more of his older siblings that I screamed at
today might have been what hey yeah and then they would hear the F word being
said to them or and they basically would go I would get angry and I had a man
cave out in my garage and I spent I would go to work come home go to the man
cave after I would scream at everybody and go to the man cave frustrated and
angry and tired and then they would basically cuddle up with my wife and
they would just try together and she would tell them that it’s okay it’s not
your fault you know daddy’s just angry and daddy doesn’t understand her daddy
is just sick and that’s really really hard have you been enjoying this series
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episode communities brain activity yeah when when I’m sitting here in front of
you we’re talking I have to process what’s coming to me I have to read your
face a lot of times pass it without us knowing but actually that’s involving
the brain a lot of times I have to listen to what you’re saying and
contextualize it that’s 3-dimensional thinking that’s all
of the brain I have to come up with a response I have to be sharp
that’s focus remember one of the area’s that’s first affected in aging and in
diseases focus that’s all of the brain communication is the best brain activity
you don’t have to buy a game on a computer start communicating with a
friend that’s much more cognitive activity my mother plays cards she was a
politician she was a chess player multilingual now she gathers people
she’s 83 and plays cards at home and that to me is the best form of brain
activity the card game itself challenges brain but then you’re communicating with
friends and everybody else that’s brain activity remember emotional memory
there’s a reason why your limbic system your emotional system is connected right
next to your memory systems especially short-term memory and there’s a reason
why the best way to encode short-term memory into long-term memory is by
emotional encoding so if you’re in an emotional environment with friends with
community with Church that does so much more than silly dot on a screen being
followed or adding some columns tonight I tell people get engaged it could be a
community center that could be volunteering it could be leading a
project that’s the highest form of mental activity by far most importantly
nobody can charge for it I love that yeah and and so much of the answer it’s
it is in this contribution I can see you you really come into a place of personal
success personal connection and and and finding meaning in life and the the the
sad reality that we face in in the West especially of the the numbing out there
were we becoming less and less connected to
each other and it’s it’s sad to see I think we’re all feeling it certain
levels and it’s so easy like just to turn on the TV and numb out to that and
yeah and there’s obviously so many so many Emmys just flashing up when we’re
doing that this this often not much thought and it is it is so mind numbing
for the majority of people absolutely you know what was amazing about of all
the research to think that came out which is a little bit of a concept that
sounds non-scientific but there’s science behind that purpose mm-hmm
we say that we have this acronym neuro nutrition exercise unwind restorative
sleep not just sleep restore and optimizing mental activity but at the
center is you unwind an unwind is about increasing stress that sounds
counterintuitive what are you because the human
consciousness human awareness has a limited a finite real estate if you fill
that space or if you try to get rid of bad stress and if you don’t manage well
you keep filling it with new stress that’s that’s never gonna go away the
only way you get better get rid of bad stress is to create meaningful good
stress the brain grows most when it is under stress but good stress what is
good stressed good stress is the kind of stress that challenges you that’s your
that’s yours that’s owned by you that’s your purpose is time-bound and you can
create series of successes that’s a brain needs that in fact the number one
fuel for the brain it’s a little metaphor it’s not glucose or oxygen it’s
tension and challenge a brain does not challenge is the one brain that withers
and dies in fact the number one factor that determined the client was not as
much as I would love to say food and acts is when a person that was active
throughout their life and then they started they retired and they didn’t do
anything their decline was the steepest so I tell people don’t retire or if
you’re going to retire start a new passion worker because that challenges
the brain that makes sure that the neurons connect let me tell you what
that means now each brain when people compare the brain to a muscle incredible this
service to the brain the biggest human being you know is three times bigger
than the average actually not true but let’s say but you have 87 billion
neurons and and a great majority of them can make a few connections or as many as
30,000 connections per neuron that’s new that’s a that’s beyond an incredible
hall that’s that each that’s your protection
the non study the taxi drivers that many other studies that people are aware of
actually revealed that that when you make those connections how do you make
those connections to through two ways one is exercise exercise actually makes
those connections grows the brain but the bigger way is mental activities
challenging mental activity around your purpose why the purpose of non purpose
well how would the brain know that limbic system how you define it if you
take the same amount of tension and it’s around your passion and it’s really
pushing you the people that are most protected are people that work hard is
throughout life but they work hardest around their passion your brain says
it’s good I like it I’m enjoying it it’s stressful that I’m enjoying it there are
series of successes then it connects that emotion to your hypothalamus which
connects the pituitary and what’s released are the good chemicals immune
system metabolic process all that is control through pituitary but if it’s
bad tension it works on cortisol adrenaline inflammatory processes your
thyroid is throwing off your growth hormones are thrown off that’s where it
starts good purpose a meaningful life so one of the big reasons why does
seven-day avenues and a lot of faith communities and it’s not just about
faith communities that are well connected in fact most of the blue zones
the common denominator was connectedness communities that are connected that have
support structures are most protected because of that connection
so beyond nutrition is connection which creates those binds both interpersonal
connection but those neurons at 30,000 connections each that’s where the
protection lies fascinating I love that thank you so much what what a what an
insight and what’s amazing hug for all not only finds the answer too near a
degenerative decline but also to find meaning and purpose simultaneously I let
me tell you a story so I’ve written about consciousness human consciousness
the fabric of consciousness is stories short stories not necessarily linguistic
even pictorial stories but stories nonetheless and each of us developed
these stories the first set of stories that it creates who you are is in around
age three or four where you create a story of me versus other then other
stories so on one of my rounds in the hospital in Loma Linda we were rounding
in this one patient we’ll call her miss Collins that’s not the real name
she had mild dementia but then developed an infection and became catatonic didn’t
talk then respond was completely non-responsive eyes open but
non-responsive for months so we were rounding and I asked the residents my
residents have followed tell me about her so they say oh the sodium is this
and potassium is this and chloride is this said no I’m not interested in that
tell me about her there were a little earth because they wanted to get done
quickly and I don’t know so I said read the charts they read the chart and they
go through listen around the middle of the chart somebody said that oh she was
a piano teacher for 60 years okay miss Collins miss Collins and the residents
at their chin she doesn’t talk miss Collins nope no response miss Collins
and then I who was a better composer Mozart or Beethoven no response
I repeat this three times on the four times that Miss Collins who was a better
composer Mozart or Beethoven and then a flicker a connection and a person that
hasn’t spoken for months and a very soft voice comes back and says looks at me
what a stupid question we connect it why her central island was music somebody
whose place who you know taught music for 60 years of course that’s a major
island that’s where the secret is you connect around islands of consciousness
islands of meaning islands of purpose when you don’t have those islands or if
you don’t use those islands they disconnect and human consciousness
disconnects we need to connect those islands through meaning through purpose
to community to relationship that’s not magical that’s neurological meaning and
purpose is that the center of consciousness and awareness and disease
prevention her family came and talked to her about music all the time and she
connected more and more it’s those connections that then that created
further connections and that’s what we all have to do not to lose the
connections and regain it but to maintain those connections those
meaningful connections and more importantly at any age you can create
new islands if you’ve never played music or musical instrument but you always
want it to start then at any age if you never knew a second language or a third
language start learning that and that creates the connections that will
actually create the most resilience or what we call cognitive reserve it’s
actually a very important term cognitive reserve is the reserve the bank account
you have against future trauma so those connections
let me analogy I give us here’s a piece of information you’re trying to get to
that’s a metaphor obviously and this is you and so only got to know two
connections to axons neuronal connections one of them is severed as a
result of trauma one of them as a result of a you know some vascular events or a
life that piece of information is gone
because it only had two pieces two connections right now make 30,000
connections to that what happened nothing can separate that keep
maintaining those connections throughout life keep making those connections
throughout life another thing that shows that evidence of the connections and
importance people who have hearing loss hearing loss by itself adds 9 to 10
percent increased risk of Alzheimer’s same thing with sight so what is what’s
secret even ambient noise or just noise in the background keeps those neurons
connected but imagine if it’s conversation socialization that’s much
more than just noise dr. Aaron Beck who is one of the
founding fathers of CBT he developed cognitive behavioral therapy in the
1960s and he actually identified ten common cognitive distortions that people
struggle with and so we actually teach people what those are dr. Nedley reviews
them in the lectures and then we also cognitive behavioral therapists lecture
about them as well and we start pointing at them and saying which ones do you
struggle with and then of course during regular dialogue in the therapy room
we also help the client see where they might be doing some or having some of
the distortions such as oh you know you just said you’re never going to get
better so what kind of distortion do you think that might be do you think that I
thought was helpful or was it true and then we help them start catching
themselves even their their automatic thoughts and their self-talk what
they’re experiencing even as they talk to us in session so we help point those
out and help them practice catching those thoughts for themselves
great it’s fascinating I think it’s I think it’s incredible and I think it’s
just it’s it’s so beautiful and I think the tragedy is is how people do it so
late in their life will never do it at all do you notice the difference can you
tangibly see they’re different I can see a difference
yeah and then of course they they confirm that they express that yeah I’m
feeling a lot better this this is making sense it’s still challenging and I think
that’s why some clinician struggle with CBT because it takes work and there are
other treatment modalities out there that seem to have a quicker fix but I
think there’s beauty in challenging ourselves and really working hard at
something and because nobody’s immune to even being trained in CBT nobody’s
immune to distorted thoughts and those core core beliefs that can really creep
up on you moments where you might feel a little
insecure about something that’s going on in your life or whatnot so what are some
methods that we can use to change distorted thinking while doing cognitive
behavioral therapy with a qualified professional can be incredibly
beneficial in working through these thoughts there are some things that you
can do at your home that can help you starting today one of the first things
you need to do is to be able to identify if you have disordered thoughts often
times we have negative self-talk meaning we speak harshly to ourselves in a way
that we would never speak to somebody else we may rationalize this as being
honest with ourselves yet most likely we’re holding ourselves up to impossible
standards and we’re more likely to give others leeway on the things that we see
as failures but when it comes to our self were very vindictive and harsh here
are a few common distortions pointed out by Psychology Today filtering with
filtering we tend to focus on all the negative components of a given situation
and filter out all the positive aspects vast most situations will appear to be
negative experiences for example someone may give you ten compliments and one
criticism and it will be that one criticism that you remember and hold on
to from that experience polarizing this is also called
black-and-white thinking it means essentially that we believe that we have
to be perfect or we’re a failure this can lead to the belief that if more than
one situation is not working out the way you anticipated you’re a total failure
over generalization this is the tendency to take the experience from one event
and assume that it’s a predictor for all future events this can be related to
using the terms like always and never regularly jumping to conclusions this is
where we may try to assume that we know what someone else is thinking or feeling
without sufficient input from the person themselves often we may come to believe
that our interpretation is fact and that we will react to the situation before
truly understanding the other person’s thoughts and feelings catastrophizing
this is the what-if rabbit-hole what if I move then I don’t like it there and I
don’t find friends and then I lose my job and I’m stuck there alone with no
friends in a strange place with no job it’s a mindset that takes a simple
decision like asking for time off work and assuming that if you do you’re going
to get fired these are just five common distortions for now take some time to
ask yourself right now if you have any of these types of thoughts take the time
to write down and explore when you’ve thought this and why then the next step
is to start to be able to look at the reality of the situation of what really
happened as opposed to what you’re thinking this is just a starting-off
process that you use to work on your own thinking processes can you help me do
identify some distorted thoughts we have name-calling name-calling is another one
that’s just making judgments on either yourself or other people pretty harsh labels to whether or not
you have enough facts or evidence to create a label for somebody but you
might even have a little bit of evidence and then you judge them harshly for
something and then another cognitive distortion is magnification minimization
so dr. Nedley actually calls this one majoring in minors and minoring in
majors so magnification you tend to blow something small you blow it up make a
big deal about it whether it’s a mistake that you’ve made or a blemish that you
have on your face people tend to also blow something up in other people you
know if another person makes a mistake and they’re berating them for that and
so you can see how distortions also mix a lot of the time because as you magnify
a mistake that somebody else has made you also are name-calling and then you
might throw in a shed must as well you know you shouldn’t treat me that way so
typically when we relate to people several distortions might be working
together another cognitive distortion is for well assuming the facts and they
two subtypes there is mind-reading so we assume that we know what the other
person is thinking when we really don’t know for sure no matter how well you
know somebody you can’t assume what they’re thinking and then
fortune-telling so you may not necessarily know what
will come to be in the future but you get yourself worked up over the
possibility of something going wrong and people with this distortion tend to
struggle with it and with the tricky thing about automatic thoughts is it’s
not necessarily words or a full sentence is it’s often not a full sentence
sometimes it could be an image that comes up in your mind so if somebody is
fortune telling about a test they might see themselves getting the test back and
they have the F and they haven’t even taken the test yet or if some parents
get worried about their children who might be on a vacation or on a mission
trip and they have these images that pop up in their mind these horrific things
that could be happening to their child and so people often struggle with that
one as well I could imagine that could come up in
relationships too when it comes to jealousy and things like that right oh
yeah yeah sure yeah that would fall into that like imagining things about a space
or a partner that is not he’s not true right yes speculative right mm-hmm
and and often I would I would imagine a lot of the things that based on people’s
trauma or something else that’s happened that caught their causes that thought
patterns to run that way not necessarily reality is that not true right yeah
definitely and so that’s why in the depression and anxiety recovery program
we don’t just stop at the distortions we have to dive a bit deeper with
participants and help them identify their Cornus beliefs that could be
rocking rocking their world essentially so for example somebody who has
been molested or who has had some sort of trauma or abuse in their past they
typically struggle with a misbelief that relates back to their self-worth so not
being good enough and often you also see that they they don’t feel like God cares
for them has rejected them for some reason because of the guilt and the
shame that they feel and they feel disgusting and based on how people have
treated them that could be reaffirming that core belief that they have about
themselves which is a really tough place to be in and so as therapists we want
people to see the truth and to really recognize that another cognitive
distortion is emotional reasoning and so sometimes we assume that our emotions
are facts and so while we’re feeling a certain way it doesn’t necessarily
determine or say that that’s what we are so though I feel ugly it doesn’t mean I
am ugly and so we have to also work with participants to come out of that as well
there’s an example of this lady as she came to my office and she really
believed that she wasn’t little by her mom and that turned into a deeper belief
that she is not loved or she cannot be loved so maybe she shouldn’t even accept
when people are giving her compliments when people are trying to be nice to her
she would shy away because her belief is no but I’m not I’m not even loved by my
mom why why would these people be nice to me you know and she’s a 50 some years
year-olds you know woman her whole life and also having depression for a long
time many years because a certain beliefs that she incorporated and she
and these these relies and once she realized it she she pretty
much was free from thinking those things and she started seeing life in a
different way and herself in a different way started having more a sense of Worth
and value because she knew that her sense of Worth and value didn’t come
from her mom so it’s pretty interesting how being aware of your thoughts can
really help change the way you’re feeling about yourself about others and
it’s it’s a process that it doesn’t come naturally it takes a lot of practice
because people build it throughout many many years so for somebody to come and
suddenly say yeah I don’t believe that anymore it takes it takes practice it
takes redefining yourself even and the other important piece with the mind is
to understand that you’re right so whether you think you can or you think
you can’t you’re right so if you believe that I don’t think I’ll ever be able to
get through fill in the blank what you’re struggling with
then you’re right however if you believe you know what I was born a champion
I’ve been conditioned into mediocrity and I am an overcomer I’m gonna get
through this I’m gonna get clear on what I actually want and because of that I’m
gonna start taking action on the important steps to get there and guess
what you’re gonna be right that you can do it so it’s very dangerous if we don’t
monitor our self-talk and it’s extremely easy to fall into this toxic thought
process because we’ve built this habit ninety-five percent of the actions that
we do during a day happen because of the habits we’ve built
so if 95% of our day is occurring and basically on repeat because we built
that habit then if we need to change and take a different course of action we
have to rewire our habits and there’s a lot of great tools that can help us but
the core principle is how we perceive we’re at and this idea whether we think
we can or we think we can’t you’re right and so we have to live on this not this
hope inside that everything’s just going to work out but no you’re going to be
able to figure this out with tools like this docu-series and meeting the right
people as we get clearer then the path is going to continue to unfold to where
you need to go I think that a cognitive behavioral thought I mean a distorted
thought that I maybe struggle with is feeling like I’m the cause of certain
things that happen okay yeah like and I still like I recognize that in myself
and and yeah and it’s it’s troubling for me in that you know things go wrong just
because they go wrong and that’s life and I’ve still got this kind of thing
where I’ll have to go through this process I’m like this has happened
because I did something that caused this and like it gets really deep for me back
on that particular point what would you say to me on that so that’s actually one
of the ten cognitive distortions called blaming and so people typically who
struggle with that one it can go there are two ways they can blame themselves
for everything that has happened or they can point the finger and say that’s not
my problem that’s their problem and so really what you would want to do as a
CBT therapist is work with them and help them understand that well we have to
take responsibility for our parts and take ownership of you know our own
actions and our feelings and including our own thoughts because remember
thoughts make you feel a certain way thoughts determine your feelings and
your behaviors and so you need to take responsibility for that portion but
don’t take the responsibility of others that’s their part and so that’s really
important to help people sort through when they’re struggling with that
distortion it’s really helpful because I see that I’ve blamed myself and I can
see that I blamed others and being being married I can see where I’ve blamed my
wife for for that that that distortion that I have in that area at times you
know obviously not all the time and I’m and thankfully because I’ve been exposed
to some of this over the years my wife and I have had marriage counseling and
things like that yeah and I think that for me as well like I can track it back
to being a child and often feeling like I was to blame for things that were
going wrong and it had a dual effect on me like it made me feel like I should do
things and like be constructive and do meaningful things which was I don’t know
perhaps the perversion of what that thing was actually for me like it was
this kind of it was ambition I was an ambitious child and but then it was this
inability to control and see that well things could happen and it wasn’t my
fault but I I didn’t really learn to fully distinguish those things from each
other and so yeah so typically people who accept a lot of the blame and
responsibility especially if that was a childhood wound for you you know you
might even struggle with a core belief that you have to be competent and really
good in all these different areas in order to feel loved and worthwhile and
that goes back to self-worth and the fact that we try and help people
understand that their Worth does is not based on what they have done or what
they’re going to do in the future that they’re worth remain
the same no matter what and that God’s love for them does not change how do you
do that when somebody is agnostic or atheist or just have given up on faith
religion or anything like that how do you deal with that uh typically I point
out you know you can use a new life as an example for a lot of things and so I
talked with them about babies and when they’re born into the world and how you
know they didn’t have a choice and they’re just here and how much are they
worth and we talked about that and just the value of their life you know and the
fact that they haven’t done anything yet and they haven’t failed
really at anything yet they haven’t had to seek the a in school you know and
they they haven’t failed the test they didn’t get the promotion yet and and yet
they’re still so incredibly valuable just for who they are what were some of
the things that were different that you learned at beautiful minds the biggest
thing was to stop blaming myself and that people it’s very common for people
to be victimized but if you decide you’re a victim you stay in that role
and you don’t ever get out of it and that was huge huge for me revelation
that and learning to quiet my mind because I always had racing mind racing
thoughts grinding on things that I could not solve replaying scenes in my head of
arguing with my wife yelling at my kids it was basically living a nightmare and
I was the cause it took a lot of talking the therapist the doctor spent over and
well of probably almost two hours with me the first time just to kind of get a
very good understanding of where I was coming from and that would have been
suffering with and just there’s a way of talking in the way of thinking she
helped me change my thought patterns help me quiet my mind you know she said
if you can’t solve it you’re a brilliant person you’re a centered person you’re a
sensitive person you would have solved it in a few minutes if it was solvable
you’re you’re grinding on things that you can’t solve you you literally have
to forgive and move forward and concentrate on the future and not so
much in the past I felt an instant rapport with her I felt I could be
vulnerable and just lay it all out for her and she basically was able to say
this is the right train of thought this is not the right train of thought
this is dangerous way of thinking this is a good way of thinking you know she
gave me books to read for homework family-first was one of them the body
keeps the score was another one amazing books didn’t it made me feel like there
are thousands of people out there like me and they’re actually saying the same
exact words that I was saying it was made me feel really good that I’m not
alone and she was just very very easily helping me to sort through the right way
and the wrong way to go about moving forward with my life
and even the the way of training my thinking and just might and how to
redirect your thoughts so that you don’t have these spinning thoughts in your
head driving you crazy my mind is actually quiet now all the time and my
wife even asked me what are you thinking and I smile at her like I’m not a thing
and that’s the greatest thing ever because I’ve been suffering with this
since I was actually a teenager or even longer than that most of the time we
don’t realize that we have to sort of thinking we have grown up in an
environment that has reinforced that these are normal thinking patterns it’s
not until we’re able to actually really step outside of ourselves in a sense and
evaluate our thinking rationally that we’re able to realize these distortions
our brain develops neural pathways that transfer information say someone has a
habit of smoking when they’re stressed when they encounter a trigger that
induces a stress reaction their automatic neural pathway that has been
formed will go straight to the action of smoking as
Ellucian the more they do this the more trodden the pathway becomes if they were
able to decide they wanted to quit smoking then they would have developed a
new neural pathway the problem is that old pathway has been used so repeatedly
that it’s well form and the new pathway is like creating a new path through the
woods it takes time for it to become well-worn and become the default pathway
this time of altering habits can be very difficult because of this process yet if
we understand how it works it can help us learn to work through it for example
if you wanted to practice a more healthy form of stress relief such as the
spiritual practice like prayer you could decide to pray every time you encounter
a stress trigger initially your mind would want to go to the smoking solution
but if you’re consistent your brain would eventually see the neural pathway
to prayer as the best solution for stress and it would become your new
habit that’s how amazing our minds are previously the mind was thought to be
set after a certain age such as the old adage you can’t teach an old dog new
tricks however recent research has shown that our brains are plastic and moldable
they are constantly changing and adjusting to new stimuli and
circumstance this is called neuroplasticity and it’s how we’re able
to change habits and thoughts and feelings when we talk about
neuroplasticity there are neurotrophins in their brain
which are chemicals that their brain releases to actually help the brain to
grow and one of those neurotrophins is BDNF brain-derived neurotrophic factor
and you can think about it kind of like brain fertiliser because it helps the
nerve cells to grow it helps them to make healthy connections and one of the
important things to understand about BDNF is that it’s not formed as beady
enough it’s actually formed as pro BDNF and so bt enough is brain fertilizer but
pro BDNF is actually kills brain cells and kills the connections between brain
cells so what makes the difference whether pro BDNF exists or it gets
cleaved by an enzyme – beady enough to actually become brain
fertilizer well it the difference is the activity in that particular area of the
brain in other words if we are using a certain part of our brain then there’s
an enzyme that comes and cuts that Pro BDNF into BDNF and that will actually
help to enhance that particular part of the brain and that particular part of
the brain will grow but if we don’t use a certain part of the brain then that
enzyme will not be there and pro BDNF will stay as pro BDNF and that part of
the brain will actually start to slowly degenerate and be destroyed and so
there’s the same if you don’t use it you lose it right and that’s exactly why so
if we’re talking about changing our brain and changing our thoughts then
it’s all about which part of the brain we’re activating in other words if we’re
thinking down a certain pathway like I’m a really wonderful person and I have a
lot of self-worth then BOOM that part of the brain is going to be cleaving and
cutting pro BDNF into BDNF and that part of the brain is going to be enhanced on
the other hand if I’m thinking about oh you know I’m such a worthless person and
I’m horrible then again that part of the brain BDNF is going to be activated and
you’re gonna be enhancing that the good news is you know if you are used to
thinking of negative dark thoughts all the time then if you stop and you start
thinking positive thoughts then those those old pathways will actually start
to slowly shrink because probita enough will take over and actually cause a
trophy in those old pathways and you don’t have to be stuck with who you were
and can you do that even if you’re older or you’ve had these thought processes
for twenty years absolutely and that’s the really exciting thing about
especially the human brain as it ages it continues to be plastic it can
used to be changeable and what they found is even in older human beings in
the hippocampus which is the memory area of your brain that area of your brain
that really is important for learning that there’s 700 new nerve cells that
are being born every single day and to me that gives me a lot of hope because
even as we get older we can continue to change we can continue to learn and and
grow and actually achieve optimal wellness for the rest of our lives
wait is that true like when you think a thought can repetitively it forms a
thick and neurological pathway and then energy passes through the place of least
resistance and so we are pushing energy through these bigger pathways because we
consistently think these thoughts is that true well you’re saying it didn’t
even more advanced way than I do I usually just tell people like if you go
down a path over and over and over again that’s gonna be an easy path to go down
versus if you change your path and go off the regular path and do a new one
well eventually that the weeds and the brush and everything and new trees will
grow up in that path and then you’ll develop a new one over here and so
that’s the way your brain works like you said path of least resistance the one
that you go down is the one you keep going down if you have negative thoughts
if you have negative self-talk if you have negative beliefs about things
you’ll keep going down that because it’s easy it’s a habit any habits we have we
keep doing often whether it’s addictions or other things and so sometimes we’re
addicted to our own thoughts we keep going back to them but if we develop a
new path then that one grows up and then we have a new one that becomes the path
of least resistance so in essence I’m helping people develop a new path of
least resistance but takes a little resistance until you get to of the least
resistance so I was asking a few other people today about a whole challenge
that we want to do about not having negative thinking and some of the just
what you would say to someone that’s struggling with how to change their
thoughts from focusing on the negative and and how they can change that to more
positive thinking like how to change their thoughts like how do you yeah how
do you start that process okay we’re challenging people to you know for
a certain amount of time not you have negative thoughts like how do you start
that process if you’re used to this pattern mm-hmm well you know one of the
things that can be very difficult when we’re starting to change anything is
just that it’s a habit and it can be very difficult to change habits
especially under conditions of stress and so one of the most important things
when we’re trying to change it habit is to actually start practicing when we’re
not stressed because if we’re trying to do it when we’re feeling pressure or
stressed it’s almost impossible but what we want to do is we want to find it at a
time or we can feel a little bit more calm and practice self-awareness what
what are my thoughts telling me right now what’s going through my mind what
are the what’s the self-talk that I usually tell myself and then once we’ve
identified and become aware of what I usually tell myself then we can we have
to start saying okay well what’s a healthy way of thinking about these
things and start replacing that but again we want to make sure that we’re
doing it at a time with low stress and practicing that over and over again so
that under periods of higher stress it can start to become automatic and we can
still start be thinking healthy healthy thoughts so how is your how is your life
different right now oh it’s hugely different my wife has
forgiven me and my daughter’s forgiven me my son’s forgave me about right away
but there’s they’re acting as I was and I’m having to teach them how to deal
with their anger now and that’s really hard to see them being acting as I was
acting and being so far from that person now that I’ve learned to change my
thought processes just I’m a completely different person in the way I approach
things the way I do things even the way I Drive
my night terrors have have subsided I don’t scream in my sleep anymore and
scare everybody in the house and the biggest thing was getting my family back
and I’m living with them now it’s been only about a month that I’ve been back
with them but it’s hugely different they’re still sensitive but I’m patient
and I understand and what did it feel like to feel wanted
again by your wife is so huge that’s all I wanted is I wanted my wife back on my
kids back because i devoutly love that woman I adore her and she took it for a
lot longer than she should have because we were married where’s this
fetus elevator teenth wedding anniversary on March 26 and we were on a
trip and she has one she told me that she forgave me and I I just was I can’t
explain the feeling is the most wonderful feeling ever you know all the
work all the time of the suffering had been worthwhile it’s going through the
therapy and it was very very hard I wanted to give up a few times but my
oldest son he’s 17 and he said no just keep going dad just keep going
what’s it like to not have to be afraid anymore that’s a magazine great feeling
you know my feet I almost started touching the ground yet I still feel
like I’m on this huge high it’s just a greatest emotional feeling I’ve ever had
I feel like someone has taken an elephant off my chest and I’m free to
enjoy the simple things I can enjoy smelling flowers and just walking in the
park or before I couldn’t enjoy anything I couldn’t enjoy being in the public I
was scared I had to see every door every every entry at every exit
I had to analyze every person that was in the crowd
near me I was afraid I was going to get in a fight or get in an altercation
every second of every day so what would you tell someone that was you know going
through PTSD or struggling with anger issues our depression and that was
hesitant to go in and get help what would you tell them I would say go get
help now I waited far too long my wife pleaded
with me for years to go get help and I said I would never ever get help
you know I said there’s nothing wrong with me you know I don’t need any help I
don’t need anyone else’s help I’m a very do it myself kind of person I don’t ask
for help and that was just hard for me to accept that I actually needed help I
thought there was no hope I thought there was no way to move forward
positively I didn’t think there was any way out of this dark hole that I was in
but there is hope no matter what you’ve experienced no matter how you’ve been
victimized you don’t have to be a victim anymore you can set this bag of emotions
you’ve been carrying with you down and you don’t have to carry it you can
listen to these people and the people in your life the ones that love you
and the therapists and the doctors that are trying to help you open your heart
open your mind that’s the only way that things will get better and understand
that you can forgive yourself and other people will forgive you as you said that
good example and you move forward positively the greatest thing is to open
your heart in your mind the first step is for you to identify what was the
trigger what was the event that was that started causing certain emotions and
it’s good for you to know what are the emotions aren’t there no anger sadness
anxiety fear helplessness hopelessness worthlessness these are all emotions
right so think back on one situation which was pretty
fool to you and write it down what was the situation and then write down what
are the emotions that came with that situation what were you feeling at the
time write those down and then ask yourself what is it that I’m thinking
that’s leading me to feeling this way so what are the beliefs that you have so
for example your car breaks down on a bit of the street that’s a simple
situation okay it can be pretty stressful sometimes if you’re late for
work for example so you identify that that situation was a trigger for certain
emotions your car breaking down so some of your motions could be anger and
irritation some anxiety and fear annoyance those would be some basic
emotions right there may be some sadness and then once you recognize what are
these emotions ask yourself what are the thoughts that are leading to my anxiety
well the belief that when I get back into work and I’m late my boss is gonna
come and he’s gonna give me a lecture again where it’s you know it’s not gonna
be good and I’m not gonna be able to do the things that I’m gonna do not only
that but I don’t have money to pay for to fix this and my wife is gonna be
complaining when I get back home okay so those are certain beliefs and certain
automatic thoughts that’s just jump in your mind oh it’s gonna be terrible okay
so those are the beliefs and then the next step identify if there are any
distortions in the way you’re thinking so one of them would be jumping to
conclusions right so when you say I’m gonna go back to work and my boss is
gonna give me a lecture wait a minute why is it jumping to conclusion well
because I don’t really know that that’s what’s gonna happen
I could actually call and I could tell them about it
and it might not be that bad right so the next step after you’ve
determined what was in Distortion you have to dispute that that so you
have to really try to change it into something that goes against that
Distortion so if I know that I’m doing some magnification of the problem or if
I’m doing some emotional reasoning then I’ll know what to do next what how am I
supposed to be thinking you know and then once you put those thoughts in
order you you’ll be calmer so you identify that emotion what are the
thoughts that lead to those emotions what else can I think can I think
differently and what does that make me feel after I’ve changed what are the new
emotions that come up peace maybe just a mild irritation but not freaking out
about it right so that would be a basic strategy to go through your through the
CBT someone in the family lost a child okay so yeah well I lost also my brother
which my little brother too bipolar so that was the first experience
of a big loss and then my mother was poison and my father was robbed and put
in a trunk so I’ve had tragedies in my life and accidents have happened yeah I
had a brother died from cancer and I had another brother have two brothers with
heart attacks my younger sister died you know of
Alzheimer’s I mean this is all I’ve dealt with this stuff a lot I’m a happy
fulfilled person but I went through those feelings I know what it is to go
through them and heal your heart you can hear your heart doesn’t mean to be happy
again doesn’t mean that you didn’t love those
people that’s so important to get and they don’t want if you believe in them
after life they don’t want you to be unhappy either it’s not a betrayal of
them you need to move on and be happy but you can’t move on unless your brain
has to process that pain whenever there’s pain physical or emotional its
imbalance and when it’s emotional that means it’s irrational see you process it
oh gosh am i master i process thousands of people this I teach seminars I stand
up in front of the room I tell them you’re feeling this this this this and
they say and they motions come out whatever we are so shut down as a
society historically we’ve always been shut down but now we’re at a time of
evolution where because our lower needs are met our emotional needs are higher
and therefore these emotions are available to us and if they want to come
up and we push them down by overeating our drugs well what happens we push them
down but go into denial of the emotions then we stay stuck in the depression or
if we’re in denial of all the emotions meaning if let’s say you’re angry some
people spend their whole lives being angry because they’re not letting
themselves feel what didn’t happen the disappointment the sadness the loss and
cry and feel sad they’re just angry well they’ll stay angry forever until
somebody helps them find the vulnerable part that’s sad
or the part of them that’s deeper that’s afraid and scared you know and they’re
all irrational scared I’ll never be loved again I’ll never be happy again
nothing will ever happen they’re just stuck in you did this to me in this
culture we’re taught to shove everything down we
don’t know how to process we haven’t learned how to process traumas and we
haven’t learned how to process our our feelings who we just shove them down
because if we talk about them we’re afraid that that will get a negative
response right and when people come talk to me in my office when they walk
through that door there’s no judgment they need to know that when they walk
through the door they can be who they are they can feel how they feel and it’s
okay and a lot of people who come see me I believe are going through the same
thing because they’re taught to shove it down and they haven’t found answers so
it just compounds and it gets worse the problem keeps getting worse
Wow that’s really helpful and yeah the silence of not reaching out and I think
about you now as as the daughter it’s sixteen years or so twelve years past
the suicide of your own father and and I think about
the the longing that you have there too then having passed through since perhaps
perhaps a situation that had some resemblance of what he went through some
resemblance of shielding something and some isolation that that he had he felt
that he had to create based on an identity that he’d created for himself
an identity that you’d created for yourself which is based on performing an
achievement and and meeting society’s standards and and then suffering on the
inside I think about the longing that you that you have just like dad like if
if only you could could just like reach out and let us know what you’re
experiencing like we we could help even though you think we can’t like or even
if we can’t help I mean we just want to know we want to care about you want to
suffer with you we don’t want you to you know what I mean what would you say to
your dad what would like if you if if he could if you could talk to him right now
or you could you could go back to the moment because it’s relevant to families
that are watching what would you say just talk to me tell me what’s going on
let’s find a solution together I’ll move mountains for you we’ll all
move mountains for you just please just tell us what’s going on
and let us help you figure it out we’ll figure it out together we’re a tribe you
know we’re your family we love you give us a chance to help you figure this out
that’s what I would have said to him because what if we could have fixed it
you know what if we could have fixed it but you know we just don’t know that now
any other special techniques that you would use through the day in order to
remedy depression or anxiety yeah there are lots of things one of the things
especially with anxiety because that thought of I’m not good enough is kind
of an anxious thought sometimes just to stop and take some deep breaths and slow
things down because I already feel like you know I’m going way too fast if I’m
you know amped-up to get enough done to make
myself feel better so just it’s set back there sit back and reflect on what are
the things I’ve already done do some deep breathing in case that’s that’s
good work for this time I did something and then another thing to there that
really helps is just being out nature there’s something that slows us down and
gets us to think more accurately about what we’ve been doing and what we’ve
accomplished by being in nature sometimes just the music you know tempo
and the city beats so you know all the sounds and rustling
of that he seemed to speed us up and make us think like we got to do more we
got to do more and just being in that calm atmosphere kind of slows us down so
I encourage people to spend lots of time in nature and stuff when they have more
time after work or even with the family take your whole family if you need to
spend time with them don’t sit in front of the TV that’s usually eat that path
of least resistance take the other path and go outside and take a walk with the
whole family I love it when I see families walking out together mom or
dad’s pushing the stroller the other kids are walking you know on their own
and they’re all talking and everything there there’s something really
therapeutic about connection to and connection can also slow us down being
with other people and communicating listening that intimacy that comes from
sharing that’s not just about getting the next thing done with your work
colleagues or something like that or even directives to your kids get your
room cleaned and all that stuff yeah excellent sunlight does it play a
benefit absolutely sunlight is the precursor to melatonin production which
helps you sleep better at night sunlight is also good just for helping
you feel better period throughout the day and this is why a lot of people like
to do tanning because there’s that serotonin boost that comes from being in
the Sun that vitamin D that makes us feel better too
yeah okay and hydration does it play much of a role when it comes to
depression anxiety absolutely our body needs to remove toxins toxins are they
thought or mental well being and stuff so drinking a lot of
water flushing we call it flushing getting rid of all of that bad stuff
even sweating is good getting toxins out that way we need to do that sort of
thing that if there was just one cause of I’m just thinking bad thoughts and if
I just repeat affirmations then everything is going to change if there
was just one cause of why you’re exhibiting symptoms then that would be
that could quote-unquote be the Cure or be the step that you need to take
however in this day and age it’s a multifactorial stressor or stressors
that are happening that there are patterns that we’ve fallen into in
habits of how we process the world how we perceive the world how we think and
how we act based on what we’re exposed to that’s a big portion but there’s also
this whole toxicity in chronic infection side that if there was a young baby
projectile vomiting when they were young and they’ve exhibited these emotional
and mental symptoms for a long time then that tells me that there’s other things
that are factors than just I just need to believe that I’m gonna be well I just
need to believe that I’m not stressed out I just need to believe that I feel
great that I believe it’s important to have those thoughts however it’s very
rare we’re just that thing is going to be the fix so as you look at and
evaluate your situation it’s important to identify what are all the source or
sources of your health issues the top ones that I see are chronic infection
such as Lyme disease other bacteria like Bartonella virus and viral infections
such as epstein-barr a very prevalent thing that we’re seeing right now too
is retroviruses the htlv s these are viruses that actually do reverse
transcriptase and embed in our and then upon stressors or getting
stressed they can actually get triggered so they can be triggered ten years later
after being exposed I see mold being a factor whether you’re
living in mold working in mold or going to school if you’re going to school in a
moldy environment I see parasite infection being a chronic epidemic and a
source to having mental issues there’s actually a book called your brain on
parasites and it goes into the research done on animals how parasites will embed
themselves into different insects or animals brains and actually alter their
behavior and so it’s clearly that’s not a human where they did the research with
some of those instances but it doesn’t seem that far-fetched that a parasite
for a human can alter our personality our thought process when you know
innately deep inside like this isn’t me but why
am I thinking this and then the other epidemic is toxins those are the four
big things and it’s very easy Jonathan to get lost in the weeds right to be
like well what about this and go really you know look at one branch or one tree
in the forest and kind of forget the whole forest and in the bigness and
that’s where we want to really elevate and look from a 10,000 foot view or
20,000 or 30,000 looking down as to you know where am I at and then zoom in so
we don’t want to just live up in the clouds and we don’t want to just live
right on the ground at a microscopic layer level we want to be able to look
difference because that 30,000 foot view up looking down helps to give better
direction but the deep dive in allows us to break barriers and walls down that we
need to focus with at times and from a mind mental standpoint if there is one
thing to remember member about mindset and perception is
this idea that it really comes down to that things are either happening to you
or things are happening for you in the moment and this doesn’t mean it’s easy
but the moment that you’re able to say that this is happening for me everything
shifts from being a victim of this is happening to me
to really be in an overcomer that this is happening for me when I look back and
I had knee surgery when I was a senior in high school and how it took me out of
football basketball I had to have knee surgery between baseball seasons and I
lived and breathed sports and I was really good at it and that knee if if
God could give me one different body part I used to think it was giving me a
new knee and what I realized was that my path wasn’t in sports
my path was in health and after I went through knee surgery I realized that it
was the health world that I was destined for I realized that that was the path
and I didn’t see it right away I actually carried a lot of ant animosity
and anger toward my knee in the day that I realized that my knee was for me and
not against me or happening to me everything shifted so it’s important to
look at your own life and ask the question where have I been sane why is
this happening to me and how can we switch that to say this has been
happening for me did you ever blame God for what happened to your knee oh I
cried out prayed and I just I I I’m getting goose bumps and chills right now
thinking about it because it brings me back to that emotional feeling of just
confusion lost like am i a defect what’s wrong with me why did this happen
and then as I progressed and started to really do deep dives evaluating my
processing and why why do I have this feeling toward my knee I realized that
it was because I had this perception that it was happening to me not for me
and if it wasn’t for the knee I went beyond the path I’m at I would have
never met my wife which means I never would have had our daughter would have
never been married to her and probably would not have been in the health realm
being able to help in impact lives and when I look at it from that it brings
this joy and happiness and gratitude instead of this anger frustration in
hatred and it doesn’t mean that if you’re in the valley right now you’re in
the trenches that it’s easy to feel that however just know that as you progress
and move forward and get better that you’re going to be able to look back and
actually have gratitude and thankfulness rather than resentment frustration and
anger everyone has that ability and I wha I don’t want to put something on
someone that they think is overwhelming humming had a change overnight because
that can quite frankly freeze people but little by little step by step if your
heart is there you’ll know exactly what to do and for me it was it was a miracle
I had no other way of describing but to say it was a miracle and then I slowly
started to change behaviors but my mindset has changed like this so I
learned how to exercise I learned how to eat I learned how to use essential oils
I learned how to treat people better I learned how to think better I learned
how to pray and meditate I learned what hope was but you could change right now
and before you press pause before you turn off this documentary you need to
commit to changing how you think you need to keep that at the forefront of
your very existence you need to have manifestations and
healing professions and positive affirmations that you print out I have
them on my website if you want them but write your
own put them on the mirror in your bathroom and speak them out every day
you need to remind yourself that you’re beautiful say things like I’m beautiful
I have worth I’m talented I’m smart we’ve seen in this episode how important
our subconscious belief systems and thoughts are by unraveling our toxic
thoughts and correcting them we can move towards greater happiness and daily
contentment a great way we can find out how healthy our thoughts are is by using
cognitive behavioral therapy techniques that our experts have spoken about today
I would recommend you begin seeing a qualified professional to work through
these things but I also encourage you to begin to take action today all the
distortions that were spoken about today were there any that stood out or sounded
familiar to you maybe you’re like me and have the tendency to blame yourself or
blame others for things that are out of your control or their control maybe you
have a tendency to make judgments about yourself or your situation based on your
emotions or how you’re feeling or maybe you might have a negative mental filter
where you tend to focus on the negative things and filter out all of the good
our thoughts have the ability to bring us down or lift our spirits so I
encourage you to pay attention to them and correct them if they aren’t helpful
and begin to see change did you enjoy this episode are you feeling hope are
you seeing that it’s possible it’s possible for you and it’s something that
is a clear pathway that if you follow it you will get results you will see a lot
transform this is cause and effect the problems that we’re facing are due to
actual things that we’re going through it’s not in our heads it’s not some
genetic thing that were predestined to that we’ll never be able to turn around
we have the power we have the tools isn’t that liberating isn’t it amazing
if you can believe that one thing the world is your oyster you’ll be
unstoppable you’ll see what’s possible you’ll see the promises that are in
store for you for me I believe that God has just given us so much in life and I
feel that we are we are really given the keys from
from God through these amazing experts that have given their life to studying
the natural aspects of medicine and and the root causes for the problems that
we’re experiencing today and through that key we can unlock the health that
we need to have the life that we longed to have with our family to take care of
our spouse our children our grandchildren our friends extended
family members to to be clear and present with them to be able to give our
lives to mission to services that are meaningful to us you need your mind to
do that and I’m here to help you take those steps that you need to have a
clear vivacious mind that is happy and and and in a on fire in a good way it’s
firing properly having the spark of life within it because it’s filled with the
right things and the toxic triggers that we’re harming it are uprooting that’s
what we’re doing in this next chapter when you take action today and support
our mission you’ll be supporting our cause so we can continue getting this
message into the world and you’ll be supporting yourself you’ll be having a
tool that’s in your home library you can watch re-watch send it to your family
and friends get them to check it out you’ll get a free body pot so you’ll be
able to get an extended posture so your your friend can log-in and and watch
these are some of the amazing tools you’ll be able to ask your questions
live on our live question-and-answer call so you can get help as you go
through the protocol for depression anxiety and neurodegenerative diseases
we’re going to be diving deep in this six module course and each week you’ll
be live on our course and you can look at the schedule that we have just click
the link below and you can see we have a limited time off please don’t miss out
on that we’re really giving away this really special discount because we want
to reward people for taking action on their health and we want to make it
possible for everyone and when you take action you’re supporting us to keep
going keep spreading this message of love of healing of truth in to the world
to help save and change lives forever and you are a part of that when you
take action you’re actually helping other people and I’m not kidding you
just in the same way you received this we were able to give this to you for
free many many more people hundreds of
thousands even millions of people that have not yet seen this and maybe one day
we’ll even reach billions of people will see lives changed we’ll see people that
have given up hope we’ll see all the people that would have committed suicide
but because they applied this knowledge and truth that they’ve learned in this
series their lives will change forever and it’s because of people like you that
choose to support this choose to get behind people that are out there whether
it’s me whether it’s somebody else getting behind people that are doing
good work that makes sense that helps to heal so get behind people that you trust
and you like their mission because that’s the only way we’re gonna be able
to change this world if you believe in what my wife and I are doing help us
continue help us continue to get this message to other people that need it
desperately help us to help heal that the heart and mind of a suffering world
by giving tools that help us be our best selves and let us shine a light the
beauty of who you are the beauty of who this this world is made up of wonderful
creative intelligent loving individuals that are so often impeded by so many
struggles that we don’t understand and it leads us to be often our worst selves
and it’s got to stop the judgments got to stop the judgment that we have over
itself the judgment we have it others it’s got to stop and we’ve got to heal
let’s commit our lives to healing be a part of that mission help us to get this
mission to heal more lives take action on your own healing journey be your best
self don’t sell yourself short never sell yourself short in life be your very
best self protect your heart protect your mind and the Bible has an
incredible verse in this it says protect and God the high god the hot for out of
it spring all the issues of life now the hot is really deeply connected to the
gut and and the mind and when you speak
about I’ll give you my heart it’s actually talking about giving the
deepest part of ourselves and all of our thinking comes from from our gut
function and from our brain function so protect god you’re hot God your God your
body God your brain your gut by doing the right things for your health and
take action I appreciate you I’m looking forward to
seeing you in the next episode click the link below to learn more about what
we’re doing to help support you and I’ll see you really soon

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