How to Make a Decision You Won’t Regret Later – Sadhguru


How do I decide on a goal for my life and develop a personality to achieve it? Your dreams, goals and aspirations… it’s good that you spend little more time on it and see will this really mean something to you Even after 25 years, 50 years, if you are in your deathbed, will it still mean something to you? You must look at it. Whatever you’re aspiring for, whatever you’re dreaming of, whatever goals you have set, Will it really mean something because most of these goals are traps. They’re just traps. You get in, it’s only one way street, you can’t turn back. I want you to look at this because.. Many of them are older than you. You ask them, what they dreamed of at 18, they’re fortunate it didn’t come true. Yes or no? If everything that you desire and dreamed came true in your life, could you live with it? Fortunately, many of those things got filtered and never came true, isn’t it? So.. it will be very good, if anybody of your age, if they want to decide and fix the goals of their life, It’ll be very good if they take a break from all influence that’s around them, social influences, family influences, other influences withdraw somewhere, that’s why an ashram, withdraw somewhere, sit down, meditate, bring yourself to a certain level of clarity and joy When you’re very happy and clear, you must decide. Not in desperation you set goals. Desperate goals that you set will mean a lot to you at that moment Tomorrow morning you look you don’t know why you’re tangled up with it So it’ll be good, if you are fixing your life, It’s best that you do it when you’re very very peaceful, happy and clear-headed, isn’t it? Not influenced by anything around you. Simply by yourself. Sit and decide, what is it that you really want to become in your life? What is it that will be of enduring value for you, not for somebody else, for you and You don’t have to build a personality for that. You strive for that. The necessary persona will come. You must understand what a personality is. The word personality comes from the word persona. persona means in Greek or in Latin, I’m sorry, is a mask. This is a mask that they used to use in old theaters. Now the same people will be playing many roles. Let’s say Ramyan is happening You have to play Rama’s role also and Sita’s role also and Lakshman’s role also. For everything there’s one one mask. You hold this mask and speak like Rama, keep it down. Hold this mask and speak like Sita, keep it down. Hold this and speak like Hanuman and keep it down. This is how the plays were done. So it is those masks which were referred to as persona. So personality means, You held a mask and mask got stuck to your face. You couldn’t pull it out. That means you have a personality. Personality is something that people are trying to develop because they have no sense of being. Instead of the real thing, you’re trying to concretize the fake thing If you are in touch with your being, why do you want a personality? It’s not necessary You can be a different kind of personality in different places You are, actually already or are you stuck with one personality? Some people are. People who are simplistic in their head have only one personality. Others have different personalities in different areas of life, isn’t it? If you had seen me before, like 1999 that is before the consecration of Dhyanalinga, I was a completely different kind of person. Okay? To such an extent, everything about me was so different. Well before that, things happened that was beyond me, but this was conscious. At that time I was single-minded towards a certain purpose, I was in a certain way. So after, I never thought I will live beyond that but somehow things happened Then I thought okay, now that the work is over, let me change my personality, completely. To fulfill that, I had acquired a certain kind of personality. And now that it’s over, I thought let me change it. And I told people around me. See, I’m going to change my personality. Don’t be shocked. I’m still the same guy They said no problem this this this. I said just hang on because things will change. Everything about me will change. The way I operate will change, the way I speak will change, the way I dress will change, the way I do everything will change. They said no problem. We know you, we love you this this. I said, that’s okay, hang on tight because when things change, people fall off. Lot of people fell off because they couldn’t believe where is that person that they knew, that person just evaporated, you know This is a new person. They can’t identify with this new person. I told them and changed. In spite of that, they fell off. So many of them. So many of them who were very dear to me and very close to me, they fell away because I changed so dramatically and I told them I’m going to change Because one face of work is over, now it’s time to change my personality. The way I look, the way I dress, the way I speak, the very way I am, everything about me, I even change what food I like. I changed my personality, so I thought I’ll change my food also. So personality is something that you have taken on. But you have become so unconscious about it that you think is for real. You are asking how to develop, that means you’re making it up, right? Another word for developing is making up, isn’t it? You’re making it up. Make it up whichever way is suitable for your kind of activity, but you must be able to keep it down. If it gets stuck to your face, then it becomes misery. Then all suffering will come to you. You can take on any kind of personality but when you want to keep it down, you must be able to keep it down. There was a sage. He was so wise. People went to him and crowds gathered. Then the King went to him and the King saw such a wise man should be in his court. So he told the sage, You must come and become my chief minister. Because a wise man like you shouldn’t go waste sitting under a tree. You must be useful for the people. The sage said, see, that’s fine, but I have a condition. You must give me a room in your palace, where I will spend every day one hour. You should never peep into that room, you should never ask me what it’s about, you should never break into it nothing. This room should be left unexplored by yourself, your servants, your secret agents and everybody. King thought that’s not a problem. What’s the problem with me? You want your room, why do I want to look into your room? Take it. Then whenever, any important meeting is to come, This man who’s a sage, now who’s become a minister, so he’s wearing appropriate clothes for the palace, but he goes in to this room and locks himself for one hour and comes out. Few months and years passed. But then after that, Kings curiosity, you know They even got us to Mars He wants to know what the hell is he doing inside. So rumor started all around. Oh he’s doing something, he’s got somebody inside Maybe he’s an enemy agent. He suddenly landed here. What is he doing there? What is he doing there? Everybody, the whole palace started buzzing around with what is he doing in this room? Everybody wants to see what’s in the room, but it’s always locked. He goes in, spends time there and comes out. Especially when something important is to be done. He goes in. All kinds of rumors happened. So.. One day King couldn’t hold it. King asked this man, I want to see what’s in that room He said well there’s a promise you’ve given me. If you break the promise, I will leave. So he contained it, he doesn’t want to lose the man, he’s too wise. And then.. His other courtier start talking, how can you allow this? We don’t know what’s happening inside. It could be dangerous It could be this, it could be that. One day when he was not there, they broke open the door and went inside. They looked around The room is empty, no furniture, no nothing. Just empty room. They looked, nothing. What does he do here? Then in one corner they saw Very, you know, worn out clothing hanging there and a begging bowl. They went. They couldn’t make out what this is. Then he came in. He said ‘well you wanted to see you have seen’. The king asked ‘What do you do here?’ He said ‘whenever I want to make any important decision, I come here, wear my worn-out clothes and sit with a begging bowl clearly, you know, that I don’t want to be caught up with all the things of the palace I want my wisdom not to be lost in this clothes and in this jewelry and in this stuff So I come here, wear this clothes, sit with my begging bowl, make the decisions and then come out. Now you’ve broken the promise and he left. So…this is what meditation is for you. Every day when you sit, you strip yourself down You don’t have to do anything about it. If you sit there simply… See.. Anything that’s made up needs constant support from you, isn’t it? See suppose you tell a lie, It needs constant support to keep it up, isn’t it? But if something is true, You can even forget it, but it’s still there, isn’t it? You understand what I’m saying? If something is true, even if you forget it, It’s still there. No problem. But if it’s a lie, you have to keep it up. Your personality is a lie, your being, your existence is the is the truth. You don’t have to keep this up. This will be anyway there. What you make up, for the sake of the society, to function in the society, You need a certain kind of makeup. You must be able to keep it down. If you are going to bed fully made up, then something wrong with you.

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  1. You know what, when Sadhguru said about personality on 4:07, He's definitely talking about the basic fundamental of personality on psychology. Personality is about how you act and thinking towards something, for instance if you're trying to get out from a room with the light is on you can easily walk and avoid certain things on the way towards the door, but if the room is dark you will use probably your hands that are trying to give you a certain insight to avoid anything that might block your way out. Yet in reality, people are using this method for something else that could probably gives harm to every single human and the nature.

  2. Hmmm, this thing about changing personality sounds pretty strange to me. That's not what I would consider to be "authentic", even though he says "you must be able to put the mask down and keep it down".

  3. As I know nothing about life process Nd wud like to get enlighten about it thru the one Nd all sadhguru 😊.
    A video published on Dec 4, 2018 where sadhguru talking about life. Throughout the video he speaks about purposes that an individual keeps on deciding for self which is actually not a purpose but traps dat oneself should get out of and make a true purpose in life wherein an individual does not left unexplored to dimensions of life. Although in the current video sadhguru states dat he tried changing his personality bcoz in his previous personality he achieved wat he was looking for. And then again once he achieved something new from a different personality he again switched over to some different personality. And as I understand that every purpose in life cannot be achieved in a particular personality. Every personality requires a different state of mind, in other words a different personality. So my question to sadhguru on which I want to learn about is, isn't sadhguru himself creating different purposes in life by switching over to different personalities with the point of exploring more nd wouldn't dat be counted as a trap. Becoz similar to dis other individuals also when they are in a state of mind (personality) Nd they achive something out of dat purpose he/she then continues on the journey Nd while continuing on that journey when they arrive into a different State of mind (personality) they carry on with another purpose in life. So kindly help me understand more about difference between true purpose of life Nd traps of life. Nd hw can I achieve my true purpose of life.

  4. What a fascinating Master!!!.I`m being searching through Spiritual Knowledge, for more than 40 years in my life, and seeking & looking in many previous Gurù `s Teachings, and in most cases, I found them tasteless, boring and not trustable at all. But today, I just found this so lightening man, so fresh, so clever, and so, but so really convincing!!. Thanks a lot for sharing!!!. Greetings from Colombia!!! 🙂 !!!!.Peace & Love!!!!. 🙂 !!!.

  5. Pranam satguru, bless me to take right decision, on which I will regrets in future. Give me strength to take right decision.

  6. Love from Brazil! Sadhguru is a wonderfully blessed human being! Wise and illuminated he can help us anywhere we are.

  7. Isn’t it possible some people just can’t be helped? That they cannot truly grasp no matter how hard they try?

  8. He is not a wise man Sadguru he is just true to his self and true to life . His thinking is not on the monopoly board

  9. One of the most influencial videos I have ever watched.
    I love it, truly love it .
    Best advice.
    Thank you.
    Keep it up Sadhguru

  10. Cant imagine my life now without the practice that he teaches. One thing one should do while Sadhguru is alive – taking inner Engineering program with him.🙏🏼

  11. Namaskaram!!!!….Sadguru thanks alot for changing the way of my thinking my attachments my success!!!…
    Gratitude!!!!

  12. I'm so much happy with this video. But the words are full of deep great meaning beyond the human experience.

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  14. It's so simple and direct.. this was very helpful and i have a little more understanding in my perspective of thought.. ty !!

  15. Thank you for your generosity, I don’t know if he is a religious preacher or whatever but I like his logic. Man talks sense and his messages are more clear than any psychologist/therapist I’ve sat with.

  16. I told someone very close to me once that I was going to change (my personality, though I didn’t use those exact words). Their response; ok no problem.
    Then when I actually start the behaviors they’re shocked like it’s actually happening. If people don’t like your new personality they’re gonna try to get you back to the one they liked.

  17. Can you give some examples of this trap, Because I'm not able to understand which is Really mean something to me and which is trap

  18. Your words very meaningful, powerful! When listen to you it's charging me with energy. Wishing you all the best 🙂

  19. Thank you so much Sir for this valuable information. Well said You have to meditate everyday like a common man in order to solve difficult problems. But I have noticed in my life and my friends when we were through difficult days and miserable conditions we were very hardworking and dedicated but when prosperity and happines shines our path we often forget the secret of success and happiness.

  20. I listen to these videos trying to figure out what decisions to make. My choices affect 3 other ppl. I am a single mother of 3 (ages 8. 5. 3.) I struggle daily to provide and care for them. I have little to no help. I can't think clear. I dont want to make a wrong choice. My ex husband has agreed to take them only if his wife can adopt them. I wouldn't be in their life until they're 18. I'm all they know. They've never met her. And see him 1 time a year. The thought of freedom from struggles sounds tempting to be honest but the thought of my kids thinking I didn't love them or want them hurts my heart. I dont want them to cry for me and I'm not there. I dont know what to do. Just keep struggling. Or let go. Will they be better with them than with me…..someone plz help.

  21. When your personality became your passion, you'll success everywhere.
    I really really appreciated your message…….

  22. I am very grateful that I come to know about the satguruji thoughts in teenage time .He makes me feel and think differently than what I was early. Totally beautiful change in thought and behaviour.thanks a lot.

  23. If I'm taking a bout king hai bohoot pareshan gabraa gaya always that it's I'm doing me guru jii ek din hum tik hai bar baar kaha apsee hahaaa coming you see king evthng😂😂😂😂🙏

  24. When you make up a personality, it's still YOUR production. And no matter what you produce it can never go further than your own being.
    So we make masks which reveals the maker. It poorly works.
    We have the ability to transform ourselves but we choose to fit in somewhere.

  25. Sadguru I want to finish my life since childhood god only gives me sadness i cant Handel.. what can I do for me whatever I want to do there is something distressing me..

  26. I saw an advertisement that he speaking at a venue near me. But, tickets start at $60 up to $300. Thats insane for wisdom. Monks in Thailand dont charge fixed prices they ask for donations. Even buddhist retreats in Virginia and elsewhere
    Asks for donations. He is getting rich. While he is speaking truth….mostly, something about the greed and material gain he is showing is discouraging and suspect.

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