How To Read Anyone Instantly – 18 Psychological Tips

Brainy Dose Presents: How To Read Anyone Instantly – 18 Psychological
Tips When we are meeting someone for the first
time, we are bombarded with information. It can be hard to work out what kind of person
they are. That’s why it’s important to understand
HOW we communicate. According to experts, 55% of what we convey
comes from body language, 38% from the tone of voice, and only 7% from what we actually
say. This means that when we meet someone for the
first time, we have to take into account these three factors – in addition to what a person’s
appearance may suggest. So, if you want to gain insight into someone’s
personality when you first meet them, pay attention to the following clues – starting
from the head down! Number 1 – Eye Contact They often say that the eyes are the window
to the soul. The key to knowing which kind of eye contact
someone is giving you, is to consider the context. For example, if a person literally can’t
take their eyes off you, it could mean there’s a romantic interest. On the other hand, when you look someone in
the eye, and they can’t bring themselves to look back at you, it’s a sign that they’re
either nervous, or they’ve got something to hide. That said, if you’re talking with someone
whose stare is making you squirm – especially if they’re very still and not blinking – something
is definitely up, and they may be lying to you. Number 2 – Eyebrows If you want to see how comfortable a person
is, take a look at their eyebrows! There are three main emotions that make your
eyebrows go up: surprise, worry, and fear. Try raising your eyebrows when you’re having
a relaxed casual conversation with a friend. It’s hard to do, isn’t it? If someone talking to you raises their eyebrows,
and the topic isn’t one that would logically cause surprise, worry, or fear, it’s a sign
that they’re feeling pretty uncomfortable. Number 3 – Lips These days, more and more people plump up
their lips with Botox injections. But it turns out, that those with lovely full
lips are deemed to be childlike and immature. These baby-faced people may also be judged
as naive and submissive. On the other hand, thin lips are deemed to
be distinguished. They are associated with intelligence and
determination. Number 4 – Smile When it comes to smiling, the mouth can lie,
but the eyes can’t. Genuine smiles reach the eyes, crinkling the
skin to create crow’s feet around them. People often smile to hide what they’re
really thinking and feeling, so the next time you want to know if somebody’s smile is
genuine, look for crinkles at the corners of their eyes. If they aren’t there, that smile is hiding
something! Number 5 – What They Say If you’re meeting someone for the first
time, and all they do is talk about their wonderful better half or praise their work
colleagues, chances are, they’re a pretty decent person themselves. Studies show, that the more people rate others
as being kind, polite, loving and well-mannered, the more likely they are to also possess these
traits. However, the reverse is also true. Anyone backstabbing and describing others
as manipulative and nasty, is more likely to have these traits themselves. It’s also possible that they have a history
of depression or personality disorder. Number 6 – Paralanguage Paralanguage is nonverbal communication such
as your tone, pitch or manner of speaking. Basically, it’s a fancy way of saying that
you need to pay attention to how someone says something. For example, if someone is answering you in
monotone, they’re most likely unattached to your concept and not interested. The use of sarcasm is another good example. When someone uses sarcasm, what the person
means is actually the opposite of what the words say. So, pay attention to the emphasis they put
on words and how they say it. It gives you a big clue as to what their true
intentions are. Number 7 – Side Glance People that are warm and open to meeting you,
will have their body facing you and they will look you in the eye. On the flip side, if you’ve just met someone
and they immediately glance away to the side, this is a subconscious body language sign
that means they are looking for an escape. Number 8 – Frequent Nodding Nodding is usually a sign that someone agrees
with you. But, exaggerated nodding may signal anxiety,
about approval. When you’re telling someone something, and
they nod excessively, this means that they are worried about what you think of them,
or that you doubt their ability to follow your instructions. On the other hand, frequent nodding could
also be unconscious gestures that are cues for the other person to get a move on – just
like when a person keeps looking at their watch or touches their car keys. Number 9 – Chin And Jaw When someone is trying to make a decision,
they tend to rub their chin. They might be looking up, down, or to the
side… It’s a sure sign that they are deep in thought. A clenched jaw is a sign of stress. Regardless of what the person is saying, this
indicates a considerable level of discomfort. The conversation may be heading toward something
they’re anxious about; or their mind may be elsewhere, and they’re focusing on the
thing that’s stressing them out. Number 10 – Posture How someone carries themselves can give you
some indications about their self confidence. For example, if someone is walking upright
with their shoulders back and looking straight ahead, that gives the indication that they
feel good about themselves and have confidence. However, if someone is slouching over and
looking at the ground when they walk, that gives a much different impression. It may not necessarily mean that they have
low self-esteem, but that’s the message it gives off. Number 11 – Rubbing Hands It is believed that the hands broadcast what
the head is thinking. When a person is rubbing their hands together,
generally it means that they have a positive feeling about something. People usually do this when they are hopeful
about something good coming up in the future, and they’re excited about it. Number 12 – Handshake You can tell a lot by a person’s handshake. Soft and flabby – and they are likely to be
submissive or a pushover. Too hard and crushing – and they are possibly
domineering types. The length of time is also important. Too long and it’s weird, but too short could
indicate some form of conflict. It’s possible that the person does not want
to make a deep connection with you. But, it could also mean that they don’t
have much time. Number 13 – Leaning In, Or Away If a person leans in toward you, it’s a
clear indication that they are interested in what you have to say. What you might not know, is that it’s also
a sign of respect. When people come closer and lean in toward
you during a conversation, it shows that they want to confide in you. It makes you feel trustworthy and valued. If someone leans back however, they show that
they are tired of the conversation, or perhaps they feel uncomfortable for some reason. Number 14 – Holding The Baby Ok…this might seem like a strange one, but
it’s good to know. If you’re meeting someone for the first
time, and they just happen to be a new mother, look at what arm they use to hold the baby. Studies show that happy moms tend to hold
their babies in their left arm. While stressed and depressed mothers usually
hold their babies in their right arm. Number 15 – Crossed Arms And Legs Have you ever had a conversation with someone
who crossed their arms or legs while you were talking to them? If you’re on a first date, or if you’re
trying to pitch someone a new idea, it’s not a good sign. Crossed arms and legs are physical barriers
that suggest the other person is not open to what you’re saying. Even if they’re smiling and engaged in a
pleasant conversation, their body language tells the story. Psychologically, crossed legs or arms, signal
that a person is mentally, emotionally, and physically blocked off from what’s in front
of them. On the same note, the direction of someone’s
feet are also quite revealing. A person that likes you, will have both feet
facing in your direction. However, if their feet shift toward the door,
it means they’ve had enough and want to leave. Number 16 – Shoes A person’s shoes can tell you a lot about
their personality. Apparently, we all make judgments about people’s
shoes, but studies show that they are pretty accurate. – Nervous people will have new or very clean
shoes – Amiable types will wear practical shoes – Calm people have an affinity for uncomfortable
shoes – And aggressive people wear ankle boots Just take a look at your own shoes. Does your personality type fit in with them? Number 17 – Overall Appearance How someone dresses and presents themselves
can say volumes about them. If the person has their hair in place, their
clothing pressed, and they show attention to style, they may be very detail oriented. Someone with a more casual wardrobe or “bed
head” might be creative, or just messy. And then take someone who looks unkempt and
smelly – they could simply be a really lazy person. Number 18 – Copying Body Language If you’ve never tried to read people before,
this is something you probably haven’t noticed. But, pay close attention to it in the future,
because when someone mimics your body language, it means they feel so good about you, that
they want to harmonize with you. It’s a sign that the conversation is going
well and that the other party is receptive to your message. This is done unconsciously – as no one walks
around with the intention of outright copying someone. But when we’re comfortable with people,
we have a tendency to do what they do. Some of us are pretty good at reading the
signs that people give off. While others are so bad, that they need the
other person to come out and straight-up tell them what’s on their mind. Reading people isn’t easy, but if you can
do it, it’s a fantastic skill to have. Of course, everyone is different, so interpreting
their words and actions may or may not always be accurate. But hopefully, with these tips, you’ll be
well on your way to becoming better at reading people. We want to know what you think! When you’re meeting someone for the first
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  1. Thanks for watching! Remember, these signs are not set in stone! Everyone is different, so interpreting their appearance, words and actions may or may not always be accurate, and there are always exceptions. Please keep this in mind when reading people!

  2. People with Full Lips or Child Like, Nieve and immature. But people with thin lips Aka WHITE are intelligent Is a"RACIST" statement. Especially when about 90 percent of Negroid people have "FULL LIPS" This is a slap in the face for prople of color, Also YouTube should not let people or orginizations post Racist videos unless YouTube supports RACISM. Imagine if someone posted that they are a petifile and try to sallust children. Would YouTube allow this video to be up loaded? People know exactly what they are saying and trying to influence other to believe. In this case it appears that they are trying tro suggest that Black people are inferior. This video must be removed or this gives me and others the immpression that Youtube supports RACISM. Do Da Math.

  3. #16…
    I don't judge people based on their shoes, lol.

    And hand shakes / cheek kisses depends on culture and the type of circumstances.

    But overall, great video!!

  4. Good wrds of wisdom… sum I new already bein I studied psychology but sum helped to no a persons behaviors alot…

  5. In other words if you hate someone just say "I hate you" with a smile on your face and in a happy way?Of course I'd never do it…

  6. There's more to rubbing hands. A quick and vigorous rub of hands means the person believes in some positive outcome about you. A slow rub of hands indicates he/she believes in some positive outcome for themself.

  7. Thin lipped bitches only win at giving head only if they can deepthroat. Prove me wrong and stop this nonsense list

  8. I feel like copying should be called matching, the implication of copying is usually negative and matching sounds more like what it is, showing cooperation

  9. Web series : for what they want if you they are excellent in all they grow up they actually giving the advice but actually they surveing where they are ? what they are? finding new ways to set up the place they say you are not going in the right direction but they found themselves of their own direction they found new market place where and what is the possibility of their own demand and how to apply and approach to the point of target audience and sale.

  10. And if you are raised in a society where you are taught NOT to look in a person's eyes? The lips…the eyes and so on…this stuff, not true.

  11. Full lips are considered naive and childlike? GTFOH with this bullshit. Thin lips associated with unattractive people.

  12. I read about the mother and left arm thing before! 😀 It's because there's an instinct for a baby and mother to look into each others left eyes. Because it goes to the…part/side of the brain? that's all about remembering people, so when a babies born and the mother holds them in their left arm, its so they can begin committing each others faces to memory and becoming familiar.

  13. The first thing I usually notice about people is the haircut depending on who they are or how old they are. if ur about the same age as me I tend to look at just above ur your eyes and if you look away I tend to gain more confidence which is how I usually notice your haircut but if you're older than me I tend to look at the shape of your head and most of the time a person look me in the eye so I shift my eyes and start looking directly at their hair.

  14. Look for the person with the blank look on their face. That's the one that actually believes this BS.

  15. I have bursitis in my shoulders, I cross my arms because it is much more comfortable than putting a load on my shoulders by hanging my arms.

  16. Crossed arms is a myth. Arm crossing is a self soothing technique. It’s really about what the thumbs are doing.

  17. the high top boots is my ex and he was controlling too…my ex boyfriend use to constanly talk with his arms folded and found out some things he was doing behind my back…so this video is helpful in reading body language..

  18. If I'll try to be an extrovert , they'll fukin ignore😡if I'll maintain an eye contact like before , they'll pick meeeeee for rubbish facts😡 sleep and music r the only friends 😬

  19. I can't look people in their eyes for long when I've stayed up all night. They can see the tiredness and plus I can come off as cold when I haven't gotten rest.

  20. I don't know who did this so-called study on body language but they have no clue my dad's a professional it reading people and everything you guys are saying is full of it okay I don't know where you guys get the idea that cross in your arms and legs women are supposed to cross their legs because they're women in their supposed to keep their legs together not spread apart for another rubbing your hands together don't mean kiddlywinks handshake it's that I agree with eyebrows in the lips in the fee norms and all that is bull dookie the truth it's way you act when you say one thing and your body tells another it's not looking in your eyes or their lives or their feet that's the way they contradict themselves when they say one thing and their body does another that's why they call it body language I'm not trying to be mean but I know this from first-hand experience rather you meet him for the first time or known him for a law all your life when they say one thing and does another with their body that's why they call it body language sorry not trying to be mean or rude that I know from first-hand experience

  21. Tim what people wear has nothing to do with body language sounds like you're puffing up the rich and making the poor feel like they're trash at least that's the way I see it in my opinion can't speak for everyone else

  22. Is this is the gentleman people think I was disrespecting I was not I was trying to say that there's more to it than hands and feet I was not disrespecting him I was trying to get information on how to help myself and I know there's more to just the hands and feet of reading people and he's very good at reading their body some of their body language and I agree with some of his stuff yes but not all of it that he is very intelligent and I'm thankful for the help that he is giving and some of the answers that I was looking for was with him no disrespect if you thought that I'm sorry and I apologize so please try and have a good day

  23. Is this is the gentleman people think I was disrespecting I was not I was trying to say that there's more to it than hands and feet I was not disrespecting him I was trying to get information on how to help myself and I know there's more to just the hands and feet of reading people and he's very good at reading their body some of their body language and I agree with some of his stuff yes but not all of it that he is very intelligent and I'm thankful for the help that he is giving and some of the answers that I was looking for was with him no disrespect if you thought that I'm sorry and I apologize so please try and have a good day

  24. Do these tip apply to everyone, people who are right hemisphere dominate, left handed, tend to think differently less detail oriented in their approach to life?

  25. I usually notice body language, eye contact and vocabulary…..If they are talkative…I keep on….otherwise I withdraw myself…..
    And of course…..appearance combined with dress code for the occasion….

  26. I raise my eyebrows alot. Actually i do to focus in on the person n give full attention. Lol not cuz im nervous. The complete opposite

  27. If I cross my legs it’s probably because I’m not ready to leave and I’m interested in the conversation.

    If I rub my hands it’s because I’m anxious. I do it as soon as I feel anxiety, which is on a regular basis for me.

    If I’m excited I’ll silently clap my hands aha

    I love wearing ankle boots, but I’m really soft.

    If I talk fast and move a lot it’s mostly because I’m interested in what we’re talking about. I could be rubbing my hands a lot more too.

    I think most of these can be true, but there are exceptions that’s what I’m trying to say! ^_^

  28. Always the eyes!! Pretty much tells me everything about them! Not Instantly but it's according to how much time I spend with someone! Very accurate usually! Great video!

  29. Actual test if you don't want to talk to someone staring to their eyes without saying anything or if you don't want to have a conversation with them do the same thing and if they ask you anything just keep staring into their eyes without saying a word or anyting they'll eventually get up uncomfortable and leave and if they try to bring that up later then tell them you were is zoned out and that you know what they said and if they ask you about what they said just to leave the conversation and never bring it up again there

  30. Lol mostly all these videos are bullshit, reminds me of an FBI saying a person is guilty for crossing their arms yet still think their mastering this physiology shit😂

  31. I am really glad that I got to see this and learn a lot of things mentioned in this video is something we all fail to notice or recognize though it’s seen regularly. Best way to read people and also influence people. At the same time , we also need to be cautious about the way we act , so that it doesn’t give anyone the wrong impression and gives a gateway to get to know the person more in the first meet ! Amazing video ! ❤️Cheers. ✨

  32. Yes that’s right if someone back stabs always running others down they’re not nice people themselves and what they accuse others of they’re guilty of themselves I’ve noticed all of that myself you pick it all up as you get older I’m 65 and I could tell you a lot more because I’m a people watcher.

  33. how come so many images of black men with white women?? Is this part of the (((globalist))) agenda to reduce the numbers of certain populations??

  34. I think im good at reading people. But it makes me sad when I think no one can read me like I read them. Is that weird? Sometimes I just wish I was an open book. So someone would understand me :–: but at the same time its horrifying because im such a negative person these days. And I dont think im worth the effort of getting to know properly because I shift so weirdly. I just feel like a different person somedays. And I regret the entire day afterwards. Its like a mindset switch that keeps changing gears inconviniently

  35. Disagree about the baby arm. I have always held babies in my right arm. Even grandbabies. Its my stronger arm. My dominant arm.

  36. #3 lips: I was born with kinda thick lips… does that mean I am a bad person?
    #6 Paralanguage: I was born tone deaf… does that mean I am a bad person?
    #16 Shoes: I prefer cowboy boots… Does that mean I am crazy?

  37. I don't know why fuller lips are deemed childish and thin lips are considered wiser but I'm sure there's a race component involved.

  38. I have natural plump full lips but high IQ but I guess I can be a little naive and gullible just a little

    I’m not baby faced

  39. Physiologically crossing your arms does not show a sence of blocking out someone but in fact is a sign that the person is insecure about something along with covering their mouth or other related gestures.

  40. If you’re judging me by my shoes. By the end of the month you’ll be confused cause I have every type of shoe imaginable! And also I will always hold a baby in my right arm as that is my dominant side. I don’t agree with all of these. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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