How To Regain Confidence And Motivation (Fast)

Hey STEM professionals, Myke Macapinlac here
and in this video, I’m going to talk about how to regain confidence and motivation. If you are technically skilled like an engineer,
programmer or a developer, and you want the most practical advice on how to become more
social, confident, and charismatic, make sure you subscribe to my channel and hit the bell
to be notified when I post a new video every single week. There’s no way around it. Your journey to improving your social confidence
and becoming the best version of yourself isn’t going to be easy. When you take risks and put yourself out there,
you’ll inevitably make mistakes and get rejected. You will get your feelings hurt from time
to time. That being said, what separates those who
succeed socially and those who don’t is how they recover from challenging situations. In this video, I want to share my best tips
on how to regain confidence and motivation. Let’s get into it. Tip #1 Stop being a victim Remember, you are responsible for your own
life. Nobody is coming to save you. So instead of blaming external circumstances,
take ownership of your situation and do something about it. For example, if you’re noticing that people
are ignoring you or not taking you seriously, maybe there’s an opportunity for you to improve
how you present yourselves. Rather than thinking people are shallow, spend
some time learning about how to dress better and how to improve your non-verbal communication. When you stop seeing yourself as a victim,
you take back control of your situation. Tip #2 Learn from your mistakes When something doesn’t go as planned, it’s
okay to feel bad. But you can’t stay in that state for too long. For example, lets’s say you always have awkward
silences in your conversation. What can you do to fix it? The best thing you can do is to reflect and
learn from your mistakes so you don’t do it again in the future. Ask yourself what you could’ve done differently. Do you need to acquire information or develop
a new skill? In this case, all you have to do is to figure
out how to make small talk and how to tell good stories. Improving your conversation skills can be
learned with the right information and enough practice. Remember, you did the best you could with
what you knew. Had you known better, I’m sure you would’ve
done things differently, right? So have some compassion for yourself and stop
beating yourself up. Tip #3 Review your goals You get exactly what you think about all the
time. Instead of always thinking about your previous
mistakes, shift your focus on your goals. By reminding yourself of what you’re working
towards, you will stay on track and keep yourself moving forward. Tip #4 Be optimistic We’ve all been burnt in the past. But if you want to succeed socially long-term,
maintaining a positive attitude is absolutely crucial. I don’t know about you but I personally don’t
enjoy hanging out with jaded and pessimistic people. Being around them feels draining. I’m not saying you should be naive. What I am recommending is that you maintain
a certain sense of optimism that things always works out for you. Tip #5 Focus on small wins Now that you’ve learned from your mistakes
and you’ve reminded yourself of what you’re moving towards, what do you do next? What you’ll want to do is to do the easiest
thing you can do to take a step in the right direction. A mistake that I see from a lot of my previous
coaching clients is that they try to do too much right away. As a result, they feel overwhelmed, they don’t
see results and they feel disappointed. And because they’re demotivated, they don’t
take action and which keeps them stuck in their situation. Does this sounds familiar? If so, avoid this from happening to you by
starting small and building positive momentum. For example, let’s say you want to improve
your dating life. Shift your focus from wanting a girlfriend
to just going out having conversations with people in general. Remove any pressure you put on yourself to
make anything happen. Make the goal so easy that you can’t help
but succeed. Remember, seeing progress is very encouraging
and that good feeling will encourage you to keep you going until you reach your goals. Tip #6 Ask for help Time is your most valuable asset because you
can’t make more of it. Getting feedback from someone who’s been in
your situation is crucial. If you want to get results much faster, consider
working with a competent social skills coach. Not only will you have someone to keep you
accountable, but you’ll also have someone telling you what you’re doing right and what
you’re doing wrong. There you have it, I just shared with you
my best tips on how to regain confidence and motivation. If you are technically skilled like an engineer,
programmer or a developer, and you’re tired of struggling socially, go to
to get more valuable resources to improve your social confidence and to learn more about
our social skills coaching program. If you like this video, go ahead and hit the
like button, subscribe and share it with someone who you know could benefit from it. And now, let’s turn it to you. Which one of these tips are you going to implement
first? Leave me a comment below and let me know. Alright, that’s it for me for now and I’ll
see you in the next video.

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  1. Always loving your videos and advice. “I did the best I could with what I knew” this hit home. Thanks for the reminder so I can get myself off the hook.

  2. I'm all about pushing the edges of comfort. I tune in and become aware of if what is scaring me is because it's actually exciting or if is sending my system into overwhelm. When I'm working with myself and my coaching clients, it's about creating the discernment to see what is in true alignment with our core values. I want to make sure that I'm building my confidence in a safe and healthy way. And, YES to not being a victim!

  3. I believe that life begins where your comfort zone ends. I appreciate your specific advice to love yourself and look forward to "next time I will"… Subscribed!

  4. Don't be a victim. ENgineer and programmers actually have a culture of feeling stuck and overlooked. Great video

  5. I encourage my clients to make mistakes too. We learn from our mistakes, they are GREAT lessons to learn from .
    Keep optimism.
    Focus on small wins.
    Love all of it and use all of them too.
    Great !!!

  6. Love your tip #1 you're so right…nobody can change your own life except you! Great video, topics that we entrepreneurs don't always pay attention to as often as we should!!

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