‘I’m The Scary Transgender Person The Media Warned You About’ | MY TRANS LIFE


REBEKAH: I’m the scary transgender person
the media warned you about. REBEKAH: I’m Rebekah. JAMIE BRUESEHOFF: My name is Jamie Bruesehoff and I’m married, we have three children:
they’re 10, 8 and almost 3 years old. So, I write a blog called ‘I’m totally that
mom’. In the past few years, my blog has really become more focused on our journey
with a transgender child. So, Rebekah has always been gender non-conforming. As young
as two or three, she gravitated to typically feminine things. She loved pink and sparkles
and all things girly and that was fine with us. REBEKAH: This is a soft blanket that I have, and it says Benjamin on it. So, we put it
with my Benjamin box. JAMIE BRUESEHOFF: As her gender non-conformity intensified, we started to notice some distress
around things like being grouped with boys at school or in activities. So, by the time
she was seven, all of this kind of hit a crises point and her anxiety was crippling, and her
depression was becoming life threatening, and we were at a loss. REBEKAH: There is a picture of me.
I don’t look so happy. JAMIE BRUESEHOFF: We were faced with a 7-year-old kid, who wanted to die. One time she punched
out the screen in her second story window and tried to jump out. REBEKAH: The hardest part of all this was when I didn’t transition and I was not happy
and it didn’t feel right. JAMIE BRUESEHOFF: So, we sought the support of a gender specialist and so through conversations
there, Rebekah came to tell us, ‘No, this is definitely me. I’m a girl. I’m a girl
in my head, in my heart.’ REBEKAH: I felt like I was a girl because I liked the colour pink and I liked girls
clothes and how they wear their hair and stuff. JAMIE BRUESEHOFF: At the time, it was the happiest I’d ever seen her, frolicking through
the girls section of the clothing store, picking out clothes and seeing what she liked. She was just a different kid. It was like a cloud lifted. ELIJAH BRUESEHOFF: It feels good to have like a sister instead of a brother, since I already
have a baby brother and I think a big brother would just be too much for me. REBEKAH: When I see pictures of Ben, I just think of it as part of my past and now I’m me. GIRL: When she told me I didn’t believe her. I was shocked. I was like: ‘I don’t
believe you, that is not true’. JAMIE BRUESEHOFF: Rebekah really doesn’t like thinking about the medical side of this.
She doesn’t want to develop into a man. So, medically transitioning involves a lot
of different steps. And every transgender person chooses their own adventure. For Rebekah,
the first steps will be puberty blockers, which will pause puberty and prevent her from
going through male puberty and developing secondary male characteristics like facial
hair and a deeper voice and an Adam’s apple that are irreversible. The next step would
be cross hormones. So, Rebekah is a natal male and so she would take oestrogen to develop
and go through female puberty. As far as surgery, she hasn’t indicated a desire for that,
but that is a decision she gets to make down the road anyway. That’s not something she
would do before she is 18. PASTOR CHRISTOPHER BRUESEHOFF: I’m always worried about the reaction with Rebekah, both
in the community and the church, and the world. I’m very worried about how the world’s
going to treat her, because I see lot of ugliness in the world on a regular basis. JAMIE BRUESEHOFF: So, this is a picture I put up on my blog Facebook page that went
pretty crazy viral. It started out with some really wonderful comments and lots of affirmation.
But if I keep scrolling here, so I’ve got this one: “This is embarrassing… first
she is what? 10, I think I read K . At 10 she isn’t mature enough to make this decision.
This decision was forced on her by her parents. This is a form of abuse not recognised. Parents
forming their child into a social media spotlight seeking their 15 minutes of fame. I do honour
her courage to stand in front of people and speak what she feels due to the forced dialogue
of her parents. This whole transgender issue is a mental illness. But it’s “cool”
because you have parents forcing their kids into it.” We haven’t had anyone in our
community, in our families say that we’re pushing this onto her. We have had that through
social media and through my blog and that kind of thing, who go as far as to say this
is child abuse, and we should have our children taken away, and that we’re sick, and we
need mental help, and everything else. And luckily, every major medical organisation
says otherwise, and every medical professional we’ve seen says otherwise, and so we feel
pretty confident that we have the best resources we can and we’ve supported her the best
way we can and that we’ve gotten the support we needed as parents. PASTOR CHRISTOPHER BRUESEHOFF: Our hopes for Rebekah’s future are that she gets to be
who she is, as boldly as she wants to be. And that, you know, folks are going to accept
her for who she is and I guess at some point that being transgender is something that she
can advocate for, but isn’t going to be a limit for her in terms of who she is and
who she wants to be as an adult. REBEKAH: I want to make a difference in the world by speaking out and spreading hopeful messages. ‘Hi, my name is Rebekah, I’m a transgender girl. I’ve been living as myself since I was 8 years old and now I’m 10.’ REBEKAH: This is who I am. My friends don’t even believe me when I tell them that I’m
transgender. I’m just a girl. REBEKAH: I want to send the message of
‘you’re not alone’ and ‘you’re safe’ to other transgender kids.

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