Narcissist Secret Weapon – – Prepare For Narcissistic Conversations

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  1. basically everything i observed and came to the conclusion of ….i was correct….you are point on about exactly how i feel ……i just felt so scattered with my thoughts and u helped me organize and break things apart that i was already feeling….thank you… part also is that u covered the spiritual part of all this and that as well crossed my mind a lot….. Nice to see a life coach that is intune with the spiritual world as well as material because it resonates so beautifully to the way i defined everything as well when dealing with a narcissist……
    Thank You so much for taking time out to make this video .

  2. I think what is said about "conversational narcissist " is usually more to do with developement of person.
    Even it can be seen with narciccist too.

    At least with men, women may hit road running what comes to communicational scills.

    Its also natural for people to say something that they them self have done when someone speak about something theyve done.
    depending how serious this thing is. If there is happened something that otherone is upset then they need more care and attention and empathy.

    Answering from their own point of view Its what children do and when someone is stuck in developement of character like many adults are. then they are still in that phase lets say 6year old life in some part even they are othervice developed.
    its just that they dont yet have scills to consider other but its coming when they grow.

    If people feel bad they are circling around them self and cant focuse to others.
    Drug using is slowing developement and all kind of abuse, if there is serious abuse they can be there in someway stuck all their life. ( as narcicicst are )
    If there is not have been adult in their life who had these tools so they could pass them to them and love and presense, they dont have tools to articulate to know how express how they self feel and not take in to consideration so much others.

    Men more need to be taught on these things.
    women are generally more agreeable and emonational caring.
    men disagreeable and competing and reasoning.
    men compete in conversation and feel ok if someone says what they have done, as they dont go in to conversation to be hugged, feelings to be understud so much dont need affirmation they want to just show how good they are and if someone says somethig else its up theirs.( over emphasizing )

    But then there is that if they dont have normal response and not notice at all and even when other is hurt then you can see its different story and they can be narciccist.

    5 different aspects here

  3. Wow. How enlightening….I am an empath and codependent…my daughter is codependent….she married a narcissist the first time. She still has to deal with him, as they have a child. I have been listening to you, so that I can help her deal with him. I have no contact with him, because he almost made me have a nervous breakdown. Well I realized today that I am a narcissistic conversationalist. Wow.

  4. Great video Lisa! Essentially this is a spiritual matter. They are evil people regardless of how they appear to be on the surface. Do you realize what you're describing are the exact characteristics of the Devil. What I've come to realize is that Narcissists, although they are human, they have essentially lost their soul to spiritual darkness Their soul has been stolen. It is a form of demon possession. I know this for a fact. Anyone attempting to have a "relationship" with a narcissist is 100% identical to trying to have a "relationship" with the Devil. Not only are they VOID of human feelings, compassion, or empathy, they don't like people and the PROOF of this is they NEVER EVER have anything positive to say about anyone, only CRITICISMS; 100% identical to the Devil. The only solution to dealing with a narcissist is have NO CONTACT WITH THEM EVER and also don't attempt to "rationalize" or "resolve" anything they say or do. As soon as a person enters into thinking of ways to level with a Narcissist, they are embarking on being controlled, drained, and manipulated by the narcissist. Simply don't do it.They are spiritual hijackers and robbers, again, just like the Devil. Totally FORGET about them and move along with life REGARDLESS OF WHO THEY ARE!!!

  5. I like the way you explained it about their behavior and about the way they talk dealt with a narcissist for 3-month- relationship I'm no contact now for 30 days

  6. Thank you SO much for doing these videos. I stumbled across your channel this morning, as I was looking for ways to deal with a narcissistic person who I thought was a friend. This person did something REALLY terrible to me, and when I found out it was her, I stopped all communication with her abruptly (this was about a month ago when I found out). She went to a mutual friend of ours, asking why I was ignoring her. Our mutual friend told her that I had found out what she did. Evidently she started crying to our mutual friend, saying "I knew I should never have done that!" followed by how worried she is that her boyfriend will find out what she did, and then finally said "I could always just deny it". And that is EXACTLY what she did. She contacted me via a private message on social media and denied everything. I just can't wrap my head around how these people have zero empathy! No real remorse, no apologies, nothing. Just complete denial of any wrongdoing, as though you're the crazy person and they're totally zen. I'm so thankful that you've made a video series on how to deal with these people. I wish you all the best in 2018! <3

  7. Thank You sooooo much!!!! The best information on not feeling valued, not feeling like one exists or has been heard in communicating with a narcissist. This is breaking the spell and the trance. Communicating with ex was like going down a rabbit hole, trying to follow his responses, which were crazy making. There was no communicating. I would often think as if I don't exist or I do not have any good qualities or have anything going for myself..this is the spell breaker. Makes me realize and wake up to how dangerous these individuals are and how cunning the manouvers. I remember at the end of relationship if you can call it that I thought this was a make believe relationship and I was in it alone. He set up the stage and once he know he had me he started going out the back door. The next in undoing is my thinking that it would have been a real relationship or a better one if I would have been a different person..and he'll be in relationship long-term with another woman..and because of who she is and will be….insidious seeds!!! One has to pay close attention to what the ego is saying…and what plays subtlely in the unconscious.. just caught myself. That is what I think if I would be a different person it would have been a different relationship. So it's somehow because of who and how I was and am. Bought into the blameshifting… wow. The videos are most helpful…Thank You so much Lisa!!!!! Looking forward to more education here and more spell breaker videos…

  8. There is No Better Example of an every day simple question response as the one I just heard about home arrival time. Ridiculous.

  9. I never new what my mum was from a very young age I just couldn’t put my finger on it even my youngest brother couldn’t figure it out he just come to a conclusion that mum and i dont get on its not true my mum has a name she even ensure that she turns my brother against me changing And lying about almost every account that’s accursed

  10. Jesus said…"Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet and turn and rend you."  Matthew 7:6   Jesus was very wise and He said these words for our safety and mental and spiritual health.    It's when we disregard the words of wisdom we get ourselves into deep messes.   And then WE are the ones who seek mental counseling, instead of the ones who really need it.    But always remember, the narcissist is who he is and there is no changing him…EVER.       For BIG TRUTH!   kristi

  11. Great Video — Most Narcissists are really Diabolical Narcissistic "intraspecies predators" and often psychopaths — they do not care about humans and usually hate them.

  12. Some sophisticated narcissist are a lot more subtle in their destructive behaviour than described here. For instance they can and do go out of their way to make you feel liked respected and cared for then…… god help you!!!!!

  13. I have a question: Can someone become or feel as though they are a narcissist after narcissistic abuse? I was in an emotionally abusive relationship 3 years ago and since then I've always had that voice in my head turning every act of kindness and activity I try to engage in, it's portrayed as "you're doing that just to serve yourself. " or "you're just trying to conceal your narcissism". I'm honestly confused and fearful of my true being to the point where I keep forgetting who I am and wonder if I've ever known. I feel like I might be a narcissist but I'm not sure. I don't know what to think or be confident in. I would really like to hear some insight. Thank you.

  14. I'LL back YOU, on your "HUMAN" comment. I'm in a Narcissistic relationship and as an EMPATH..I FEEL like I'm going thru HELL!..YOU DEFINITELY hit the TARGET!..I HAVE to get OUT! HE told ME that HE feels NO EMPATHY. AND LOVES to give people BAD/DISAPPOINTING news. I was a PEACEFUL person but slowly becoming a person. . who has been shredded to PIECES. He told me that we would NEVER get MARRIED bc of MY trust issues. When I mention HIS "flirting" with other women. OMGOSH! You must know him! ..😉..EXCELLENT INFORMATION..YOU are SPOT ON!

  15. You are right I went from a person who could take care of my self to not. I wish all the therapy that I went to, they would try and teach me how to deal with my husband. I was honest with the therapist. No one said he won’t or can change you just need to leave or live this way and it will only get worse. Work on figuring out how to take care of you children and you self. And get the heck out. Or it will be 46 years latter and you will be very sad how you have raised your children and how you have lived. Thank you 🙏 wish I had known about this a long long time ago.

  16. I was only very recently introduced to Lisa's teachings and I have to say that they are really triggering a lot of past trauma. I recognize narc behaviors in myself that I need to work on and I recognize narc behaviors used to wound me and steal my energy. Thank you, Lisa for this information.

  17. Wow!!! No joke the most unhealthy crazy making conversations you will ever have with anyone. Insanity! They are more like demons which is why they do not seem human like the rest of us.

  18. When you said the word yawn, I yawned. Lol. I want to think that I am self contained now. I am stuck . But it’s a constant effort to acknowledge what I need to do for myself. Thank you for your light

  19. Mine x narc would ask personal ?s and was so concern about how hurt I was. Waited 2 years and repeated every action. Sit in front of me texting say'in these females won't leave me alone. Really ! If a person text me chattin about getting a hookup,I drop an block.Plus you had to lead them on to even have that happen.

  20. yes oh my God yr right!!I went through this for 5 an half years..You are so right..I finally learned to just say yeah bc he loved to make me mad.And then he would just smile and enjoy the ride..

  21. I wish i had found your channel 4 yrs ago before leaving my narcissistic husband 4 yrs ago you could have helped me so much to cope with what i was going through.

  22. Energy body. Lmao 😂 you are a true Narcissist lady. Your getting your validation from this video. Lemme guess, your a feminist and divorced. How much alimony and child support are you stealing from him?

  23. Why is it that narcs don't necessarily have to explain themselves yet the other person does? (I.e. Not making it home by 5pm from work)

  24. This should be taught in Junior high school and high school so children will not get involved in abusive relationships.

  25. I was crying watching your video. Full of truth, honesty, caring. Since I started my healing, I feel like a bird caught in a warm and gentle wind that will bring me wherever I want in life. Freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee Thx again.
    I sent you some genuine, unconditional love in the air. Hope you will receive it LOL 🙂 Have a wonderful day.

  26. I'm still playing victim smh I'm trying to find ways to work on my ego because I think that is what keeps me playing the victim

  27. I remember 'Him' sucking the energy out of the room, just being around him was draining ..even if nothing much was said. Im so glad he has been ''ousted' from our lives. We are so much happier, there is joy and abundance once again/

  28. or as an empath, you learn to "shield" yourself. exploring alternative religions allowed me to learn to shield myself so , there isn't overflow from others clouding me & how i do things. 😀

  29. Does the narcissist want to slowly kill you completely or just keep you in a paniced state of no rest that you can't think? I asked him if he could bring us a sandwich this morning when he picked up his check and he lost his mind and told me all I cared about was his money! He's lived off me 8 years and told me when he went back to work after months for 2 days this week, he said thank you for looking out for us I'll give you some money back on Friday. I didn't ask for money and had no plan to! It morphed from that to him coming back and leaning over me screaming I don't love him and love making him angry! I tried giving no audience and cowering further after very little sleep stayed in the back room of the house and he came back again and said I'm going to just kill myself so you will finally be happy! I'm losing it! I know this is all my fault but I can't think let alone plan…red zone day.

  30. Hi, Lisa…it has been a while since I have been with you!! Your video resonated with me to the TEE! Geese we are sick of conversations like that! AND Yes, we can judge others.and harshly from the programming! We were taught! We do not like ourselves that way! THANK YOU for the tools! But, Lisa! I would not ever stay with a relationship like that again! THAT'S IT! I'm done! No letters or emails! THEY are INHUMAN!!! P.S. We are not insecure at the cocktail party! They are!! THEY have to feed their fragile egos IN FRONT of us and to disrespect and disregard US and get away with it! (more supply) by flirting with every woman there TO FEED THEIR INSECURITY!. So, when they turn it and say it is us? Projection! Projection!! Projection!!

  31. Psychic Vampirism….They meet you when your full and radiating…
    and leave the feeding ground when your nauseous, weak…and drained…let you charge up..then swing back to feed off of you again…"My view….Sharks have been around forever…everybody is diving in shark-infested waters…you spot a big couple sharks coming off the reef to check you out…see if you are an easy meal..bump it in the nose…comes again hit it with a club to the nose….looses interest and swims off for an easier meal..You did not kill or harm the shark..yet you removed the risk..koodo's."…so preempted action is prioritized…"Don't fall in love with a shark" ; )…

  32. Lisa. Thanks for the video. I have been dealing with a narcissist wife and her narcissist family. This is how I felt about them before I saw this video but this information will help me to deal with these animals.

  33. To make positive impact to our society by lifting good people up in helping, not wasting time to those "impossible to save" people who would interpret negative perspectives anyway, therefore your empowerment to toxic people only strengthen them the wrong way. We all have limited resource (time, wisdom, $$$), so choose to help those good people for them to pay it forward. When you help bad/wicked/evil people, you are empowering the negative impact of our society. Self-revelation, self-reflection daily are very important to soul progression before you "complain" others from your "polluted" perspective. I found others complain their moms….etc as energy vampires which are against natural Laws and God's given family Love purpose. I do agree lots of people's roots, conscience could be "messed up" by EMF; even consciousness could be replaced or manipulated, but the root cause are all due to " lack of true love". Western cultures encourage "self-love" which equals "selfishness" to bring you down to the underworld entrapment. Each/Every good deeds, positive impact , thoughts will balance your negative karma and gain good heavenly/celestial credit. Keep doing good by helping others with your resources is "best way of soul journey success".

  34. Now after not knowing about narcissistic personality disorder and finding out , shook my world . It was like you were talking about my life with him . I talked to the poor woman who has been snowballed by this lying cheating husband . The other woman . All about how he never brought anyone home to meet me or took me out to meet them .secret lying life . Oh I'm so happy that I texted and talked to her . All the disgusting things he made people think I was , and the horrible things he did to me .all the things he said I did and was , he was talking about himself .Things I have been threw is going to be over . You know that saying , grin and bare it , I have for 36 yrs , I feel at peace and I hold no animosity towards her . She is a victim like me , so I got out and said how I am as a person and that everything he does and said was a lie . I think she believed me , and I said to her it's ok , I'm not the monster and I don't hate her or anyone .I k now he is not capable of loving anyone then I explained . It's not her fault , he is a minipulive suducer with a sick perverted sex addic, who only cares about getting that supply . When things don't go his way , look out
    I told her that she can show him everything I wrote . I did not fib at all ,and I was calm and did not exaggerate . 100percent the truth. I feel sorry for her , another victim . I will be so happy when he is gone so I can start a new life . I told nothing is holding him here , he pays for nothing and I would rather have nothing like I do now . I SAID, please your more than welcomed to take his cloths now . I don't care . He tried to distroy me but I found out I was way stronger than that. Who wants a cheating ,cruel, critical, luring husband that can't feel anything .

  35. I have recently in the past few months discovered the actual meaning of the word NARCISSIST. I am in a daily struggle. Every single morning this man wakes up in a RAGE. Doesn't matter the mood he fell asleep in. He is in a RAGE. He has brought me up to 3 anxiety attacks a week now. My pets and I are here, for lack of better words, we're abused by our last roommate to the point of a TRO which turned into a PRO. We then had to move out within 7 days, I was desperate. I AM IN MY "AH-HA" MOMENT STILL. Every relationship I have had was this. Ugh, I feel so stupid and blind. He's extremely verbally abusive. His RAGE in the morning sets my tone with him for the day. And he comes in just the way he left. It's fuckin sad. I cry for my family and friends. I'm very happy to have found your channel. I am looking forward to coming out of this darkness with these lessons. Bless us all.

  36. Great info, you must have been raised catholic! I agree the narcissist is not human!!! Maybe they are reptiles! Thank you so much for sharing!
    My nickname for the “N” in my life is NASA, NEVER A Straight Answer! I have to say the few times I have successfully reflected his behavior back at him, he was fuming, and the vampire analogy is perfect and I have a physical example of “their” life draining tendencies! It was shocking to see it, I have a couple of profusely blooming rose bushes that stopped blooming immediately after he touched them, meaning he pruned them. I usually do that myself, it’s a labor of love, but I was ill. When I care for them they bloom so profusely,, I have several large bouquets and the bushes still have flowers, this is every week! It’s hard to keep up they bloom so much! It was shocking to see in the natural what these energy vampires do to the life force! They actually physically drain what ever pure and innocent energy they touch! It was undeniable. Great video Ms Lisa Romano! Sending you love and gratitude!

  37. I'm a codependent as a result ofCPTSD and I have a friend who invites rich people who she claims are lonely and alone but has never invited me to Christmas dinner. I recently noticed she attracts passive and other codependent people .Light bulb moment. She is a narcissist who is a rich wanna be or control others.

  38. What to do when my father, is a criminal and a narcissist or sociopath who treatens me after a confronting him…-if i tell anyone whats going on that he will kill me…-and has 2 hidden guns and a silencer?
    And it has come to a point where I have no job or no one beside,social life,money or anything?!-just a ex girlfriend who saw him with no "mask on"…-and she run away far….
    -for now,only my therapist knows…
    -should I trick him and bring on the police and court or what????
    -I'm totally exausted….

  39. Yes iindeed..i had a neurologist says I was the most real human he had ever met in 20 years of practice.. he said wow it's so refreshing but scarey.. he was scared of my Empath abilities.

  40. Yes now I check myself not to shift the story away from their story.. it is so important we don't end up like narc mom.. in my case.. my ex narc husband.. destroyed me..almost killed me, super energy vampire.

  41. They are worse than everyone. The are predators that are always on hunt for prey to feed themselves .. Animals in the jungle..

  42. Thank you so much for all of the videos that you put out. They really help me a lot cuz I'm Container Store husband. He has cheated on me a couple of times in the past it just yesterday I found, on some of his Instagram on post where he actually said to several different women, " you could be mine" with hearts next to it. When I confronted him about it of course he was really nonchalant and laughed and said, yeah? And what's the big deal with that? That line is from a Bon Jovi song and it doesn't mean anything. He's trying to twist it and just saying that I'm making a big deal out of something that I shouldn't and I told him that I don't think of Eric Mangini making comments like that another when posts. And he disagrees with me. Am I wrong or am I making a big deal out of this?

  43. Thank you for this video! I just realized even more even benign 'conversations' with my N.P.D. dad where he is just babbling on and gets mad if I go into the adjoining kitchen to do stuff while he talks – even the benign conversations with him are for his 'majesty's pleasure'…. nothing is because he wants to talk with you. He's just talking because he needs to talk to someone and drain them. I am forced to live with because of being disabled with C.F.S….but trying to protect myself more and work on me. Videos like these help me just view him like 'The Borg' on 'Star Trek: The Next Generation. They just come to destroy you without emotion. I've often thought it would've been neat to have a body cam or cams and mic's around the house to record my N.P.D. mom (before she died) and my N.P.D. dad to prove what they say and how they act. It's amazing how people don't these people exist. WHO WOULD MAKE THIS STUFF UP??? I'm working on getting strengthened and staying away from him as much as possible in the house to protect my energy. Thanks for mentioning the energy drop – he does that. No wonder I have CFS. But there's always hope for me. I'm happy to say I've given up on him completely. I pour no emotional energy or hope into anything about him and his words mean nothing to me.

  44. I get what your are saying about the narcissist not being human; however, it is part of the human experience– like any other ailment. You can understand and prevent a shark from biting you by staying out of shark infested water (your defense methods); you can avoid the shark. Nontheless, the shark is a part of the universe… Is the shark bad or evil– no, it just is what the universe does, it makes sharks– narcissist– aka sick people. My two cents. Much love for your vid. Your identification of the number one manipulative method and a way to deal with it will help viewers survive narcissistic abuse. Also, the empath cannot exist without the narcissist as light is only light because of the darkness. Yin yang. To be clear, an empath can live without narcissist; however, the universe needs opposites for each thing to be a thing. Oh, and one more thing. As a defense tool, I have found injecting humor into the goings on of a narcissist– getting them to laugh– makes things more sustainable. It seems to get them present I suppose, and for just a second less wrapped up in their flow of latent manipulation.

  45. Does a Covert Narcissist mirror our emotions? My mom passed away about 3 yrs ago. My husband rarely had communication with her nor saw her due to she lived in another state. I took care of her at her home during her last 2 months of life. This left me with PTSD, depression, etc. I haven't shared the details with him I endured during that time. My husband told people he has PTSD and is greiving my mom passing. The words I told him how I felt. He tells people they were close and she was like a mother to him. With me there he tells people about how great my mom was and how her death affects him. It is always about him. In the beginning he told me that after a few months I should get over my grief. Then later he tells me I will never get over it and it will be with me the rest of my life. Oh, he constantly tells me, he is suffering too…its not just me. In otherwords, he negates my grief for my mom and makes it about his feelings. Remember i don't tell him Im sad, nor have I cried over her death because he voided my feelings…I just lost my joy. He points out I look sad all the time. Heck, if I smiled he would get upset and interrogate why I was happy. Everything out of his mouth is always about him.

    Now get this, he had to go get counceling because of my mothers death…i guess i didnt feel sorry for him so he had to get it from a doctor. He now tells me I am sick and need counceling. Yeah since I moved out to have time to myself to have some me time. He would call to tell me he lost weight and is sick because i left. When i come back he will be better….he gets a lot of sympathy from others and loves the attention the doctors are giving him. I checked the fridge…it is packed with meals. Yes, for 38 years of marriage I have been walking on eggshells to not upset him, he can not handle stress, self centered, and i have been an emotional punching bag. He has manipulated me saying he is in too much pain to do all the yard work, all house maintence, etc so i do it in addition to taking care of the kids, house work etc. If I ever asked him to help even with the kids he would get upset…to the point it wasn't worth asking. So because what he does over my moms death, is he a covert Narcissist?

  46. Thank you for taking time to speak on this subject. This video helped me so much. I have bee dealing with a narcissistic child for over 40 years. You have given me some strength to live with the situation.

  47. i love everything you say about life. i relate so much. i still havent figured out how to take care of me first. i share things or feelings expecting others to make me feel better or to just care and i leave the conversation feeling even worse. even small things like recycling.. the more i see in the world.. the more i realize im alone here?? the anger is taking me over. i sit and argue w these people in my head which takes my time and my spirit. negative energy. so i tell myself to never share anything which also hurts. there have been so many times that i see a picture or hear a story and i sit and cry.. im strangely attracted to reading about pain. to past events. i alot of times regret reading the sad story because i get so upset. and i share and others act like im wasting their time or will say ya! lots of bad stuff happened or just basically avoid even hearing or reading the story all together.. but iv always always been this way. not my fault. and i feel i am a fighter but only for what or who is mistreating defensless innocent.. so once again i fill w anger at the world. believe that is why my child is special needs. and i pray i am strong enough to be the advocate he needs to be his rock and rise above my depression and anxiety dissorders and the narcissists surrounding me.. break free somehow for my beautiful misunderstood nonverbal austistic empath son.. i knowhere is a reason he is my child. to make me strong since i have always been to insecure and worried about others to fight for myself..
    …from the ashes

  48. I made so many mistakes. Thank you for the help u give. I love you and bless you Lisa. Ive learned so much from you over the past year. In graditide i send you blessings of love and light. I found myself. Its been a long dark road. But i found the light n continue to grow. Xoxo,

  49. How do I deal with a narcissist that I have a baby with who I just broke up but not married to. Should I seek legal help?

  50. Thank you so much! I remember when I finally emailed the narcissist that he wasn't emotionally invested in me and that I needed friends in my life who were invested, the opening response I got was that he thought that was the bipolar talking (I do have such a diagnosis), the implementation being that I was crazy for thinking he wasn't emotionally invested, making it about me being at fault instead of him. Thank you for helping me see I am NOT crazy or irrational.

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