The Truth About Depression by Burgs


– Well, I think there are two
main issues with depression that need to be addressed. One is just how wretched it
feels, and the latent inability to be with such a unpleasant
and overwhelming feeling, and where that feeling’s coming from. That feeling of being, that
feeling of wretchedness, or that feeling of disconnect,
that causes the mind to proliferate in such a way
that creating the idea or thinking that there’s something
fundamentally with us, looking for resolution in the mind, and not being able to find it
when the mind is so incoherent it can’t think straight. It’s a wretched place, as you say, it’s… in a way much more overwhelming
than physical pain, or every bit as overwhelming
as physical pain. The problem is that we then
think that there’s something fundamentally wrong with us,
so we’ve got two problems. We’ve got I feel dreadful, and there’s something
fundamentally wrong with me. The bottom line is there rarely
is anything fundamentally wrong with us. The fact that we end up
feeling so despondent or in a state of despair or
so depressed is a reflection of how we’re organized within us. How we’re feeling is a
reflection of how misorganized we’ve become, or how
dysfunctional we’ve become. And anybody who feels like
that, who is organized in such a way will feel that. So it’s not that it’s something
wrong with us personally. So the first thing I think
it’s really important to do is to not take it personally. It’s never broken. It’s very rarely broken beyond repair. It’s just that we’ve got
ourselves into a muddle. And when we are in a muddle,
we don’t think straight, we don’t feel right, nothing makes sense. So instead of trying to
resolve the problem while we’re still in a muddle, if
we reorganize ourselves, get the mind functioning
energetically properly, get the body functioning
energetically properly, then we get perspective
that we can’t get when we’re in that kind of state. So I think the first
thing to do is to take the mind or the attention off
what we think the problem is, and just accept it’s
because I’m in a muddle that I’m feeling so wretched. The second thing is that when
we are depressed there is a disconnect between what
we feel is expected of us and what we feel we’ve
got to bring to the party. In some way there’s a mismatch. We’re out of whack. And we feel always that
we’ve got to reach up, and there’s some sense
of I haven’t it in me to do what’s being asked
or what’s expected, or it doesn’t make sense. And I think we need to
allow ourselves to basically completely reassess what
it is we’re asking of life, and what we think we have
do to or is expected of us, and be willing to turn it
down because, you know, the happiest people that I
come across are not the ones with the most elaborate,
extraordinary lives. They’re often the most overwhelmed
and the hard to satisfy. The happiest people I meet
and I come across are the ones who’ve allowed their life to
settle, and simplify within the parameters of what they’ve
actually got to bring to the party from a place
of comfort and ease. And this overreaching that
we feel is expected of us, I need to be reaching out
for more in order to make more sense of my life, puts
us in an untenable situation if we feel we haven’t got more to give. Now we don’t all have the same capacity, and so someone who feels
that I’m not doing what’s expected is immediately
gonna start to feel that they’re not good enough, and it’s not. There’s no such thing as not good enough. It’s that you’re asking more of yourself than perhaps is even necessary. So the willingness to reassess
what we think we have to do is really key, and to find
permission, give ourselves permission, even if we’re
not getting it around us, to give ourselves permission
to take the sort of pressure off us so that our whole system, our whole being can decompress. Because a large part of
depression is just the tremendous buildup of back pressure in
the system that overloads and overwhelms us, and gets
us to the place of feeling I can’t cope, I’ve gotta give up, somebody get me out of here. So backing off the pressure
by just allowing ourselves to accept that we’re overwhelmed
is really, really important. So you know, here’s my take on depression. The bottom line is if you
were as well organized and coherent within your mind as the Buddha, you’d be feeling like him and
having such an extraordinary experience of freedom and
completeness as he had. If he was in an extremely
misorganized, incoherent, muddled state as you, as we
tend to get ourselves in, he would be suffering the same way we are. It’s not personal. This process by which our mind functions, it’s an operating system, yeah? When it’s organized nicely,
when it’s coherent and it’s running properly,
we have an extraordinary experience of life,
every single one of us, even those one of us who
thing that there’s something fundamentally broken that can’t be fixed. No, we’re just extremely
incoherent in the way in which we’re organized. If you bring that person
back to a state of alignment, where their mind is organized,
where the actual currents of life that are stimulating
their brain are coherent instead of incoherent and dysfunctional, they will not feel as overwhelmed. They’ll start to feel better. So if we see it as a
reflection of the way in which we’re organized, how we
feel is nothing more than a reflection of how
we’ve become organized. It’s maybe taken our whole life
to get organized like that, and to reach a state of
complete abject despair. But the process of getting,
coming back home is actually, if we look at it in terms
of as a process of becoming more coherent within
ourselves, then we see it’s not something that’s broken
or fundamentally wrong. And I think one of the great
stigmas around mental health is sort of coming to terms
within ourselves that there’s something wrong with me
fundamentally that makes me invalidated, or insufficient,
or an incapable human being, and it’s just not the case. It’s how we feel when we get
that overwhelmed by life, and that’s just how it is. So you know, there are… There are ways in which we can, I always say to people, don’t
try and solve your problem while you’re in a muddle. The problem is when we’re
in our most muddled state we tie ourselves in knots
going what’s wrong with me? Why doesn’t my life make sense? What have I got to do to make sense of it? But we’re in such a muddle
we’ve got no perspective. Forget about what you
think your problem is. Work to bring yourself
back, through meditation, through taking care of yourself
physically, energetically. Get your life flowing through you. Life is a current that flows through us, and when it’s incoherent,
we feel dreadful. When it’s coherent, we feel amazing. Get yourselves working properly, and your perspective on
life will change profoundly. And you might even find
that what you thought was a problem isn’t a problem anymore.

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Comments

  1. "Oh society, you took it away from me
    When you brainwashed me with formulas of how I should be

    Shaped me and raped me of my individuality
    Schooled me and fooled me
    Told me what I could and could not see
    Took me and shook me of my urges to be free"
    -Alice Phoebe Lou

  2. one of the best and most uplifting and intelligent pieces of advice, perspective and wisdom I have ever heard. This has given me such a boost at a time that i really really need it. I have sought after wways through working out with my own intelligence of working out why i feel so low and looked at other bits of info here and there but this really tapped into my mind and was so inspiring . Thank you to this man and whoever uploaded.

  3. He has such a warm and understanding approach to depression. Having come out of it myself after nine years of suffering I must say in my experience what he says rings true to me. I feel far less “muddled up” now I am better, but at the time I was extremely confused and took all this “muddling” as a personal attack, or a direct reflection of my character. I now know this is not true. Brilliantly well put 🙂

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